Kwiintsuku ezilandela umxhatshazo womhlaza womntu, iqabane okanye iqabane lihlala lityalomali ngokupheleleyo ekuboneni wakhe othandekayo ngongxaki. Akuqhelekanga ukuba izibini zihambe kuzo zonke iindibano zokuqeshisa ugqirha kunye nekhemotherapy ndawonye, okanye ukubona umlingane ethatha uxanduva lwamachiza, umsebenzi wendlu, abantwana, ukucwangcisa, ukutya, kunye neminye imisebenzi ngaphandle kokungabaza okanye isikhalazo.
Kodwa emva koko, emva kweenyanga okanye kwiminyaka yokunikela ixesha kunye namandla njengomlingani kunye nomnakekeli, iimvakalelo zomsindo kunye nomsindo ungaqala ukungena. Ngokukhawuleza, ukuhlukana kobudlelwane kuqale ukwenza, kubangela ukungathandabuzeki malunga nokuba umtshato unako ngokwenene kusinda kwonyango lomhlaza.
Njengoko kuphazamiseka njengoko le mvakalelo ingaba, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba ziqhelekileyo. Asinakubathanda - banokuthi basilungele - kodwa ukusebenza ngokuvakalelwa ndawonye kukuvumela ukuba umtshato wakho nobuhlobo bomntu buhlale bunjalo.
Qonda izizathu zokuba nomsindo
Xa sibhekene nento enkulu njengonyango lomthandayo, sisoloko sizama ukubamba imeko kwaye senze izinto kakuhle. Sifunda yonke incwadi, sifunde yonke into, senze yonke into esimele siyenze ukuze sifinyelele kumgca wokugqibela wokugqibela: ukubuyisela.
Kodwa akusoloko kusebenza ngaloo ndlela. Ekugqibeleni, umdlavuza awunayo ikhosi ehleliweyo.Iya kuba neentsuku ezilungileyo kunye nokuhlaziywa, kwaye ukubuyisela kunokwandisa ngaphaya kweyiphi na into onokuyilindela.
Ejongene nalezi zinyaniso, kuya kulungele ukuziva udidekile - nokuba nentukuthelo - njengoko ukuphelelwa ngumzimba kunye nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo kuya kuqala ukuthatha umthwalo.
Kwiimeko ezininzi, le mvakalelo iyaphumelela, nto leyo ithetha ukuba into eyona yintlungu yakho ayiyiyo iqabane lakho kodwa umhlaza womlingane wakho. Abathandekayo bakho bamane banike umhlaza ngomntu kunye negama onokukubonisa kwaye uvuselele umsindo wakho.
Iingxaki zoBumbo nobushushu
Iziganeko ezithile okanye iimeko zinokubangela le miva, enye enokuthi uyayiqonda kunye nabanye ababonakala bengabikho ndawo.
Ezinye zezona ziqhelo eziqhelekileyo zibandakanya:
- Uqala ukuva ubunzima bombingelelo wakho. Ngaphambi komhlaza, mhlawumbi usebenze ixesha elide ukugcina indlu entsha okanye iholide; ngoku usebenza ukuhlawula amayeza kunye nonyango yakho yomshuwalense ayiyi kubhalwa. Awunawo ukhetho; ufuna imali. Kungekudala, ukuhlala kwakho kwintlalo kunye nomsebenzi uqala ukubandezeleka, kwaye imibingelelo oyenza ngokukhawuleza ibonakala iphoqelekile kwaye inzima.
- Uziva unemisebenzi engaphezulu kunokuba ungayisebenzisa. Xa iqabane lakho ligula, uhlala unyanzelekile ukuba uthathe uxanduva olungazange ube nalo ngaphambili. Unokufumana ngokukhawuleza ukuba usebenze ngemisebenzi yasekhaya kunye nomsebenzi wesikhathi esigcwele. Ekuhambeni kwexesha, unokuqala ukungaqiniseki ukuba ngaba wenzayo kakuhle. Izikhuselo ziqala ukusetha.
- Umlingani wakho ulahlekelwe ngumdla kwisini kunye nobudlelwane obusondeleyo. I- libido ephantsi ingaba yiphumo elisecaleni lomhlaza wonyango. Kwakhona kubangelwa ukuzithemba okuphantsi ngenxa yokulahleka kweenwele, ukulahleka kwesisindo, kunye nokukhathazeka kwansuku zonke kokugula. Ukuba unobomi obusempilweni obusempilweni ngaphambi kokuba unyango, kunokuba nzima ukuba ubaleke ukusondelana ixesha elide. Xa uzama ukufihla le mvakalelo, ukugqithisa ngakumbi iimvakalelo.
- Uxinzelelo lokuba ngumnakekeli luye lwaba lukhulu. Ukunyamekela iimfuno zakho zentsapho kwimihla ngemihla kunokubangela uxinzelelo. Unokungabaza ubuchule bakho, unenkathazo yokucwangcisa ixesha lakho, kwaye uzive ngathi ubomi bakho abuyikho yakho. Ukunyamekela kunendima ebalulekileyo kangangokuba kwimiba engcono kakhulu inokukhokelela ekukhathazeni umkhathaleli .
Iingcebiso Zokujamelana Nomsindo Xa Umlingani Wakho Ugula
Umgca wezantsi kukuba: naluphi na intukuthelo onokuvakalelwa ngayo kwiqabane lakho mhlawumbi ngenxa yengqondo, ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo ongaphakathi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akukho nandiphayo yokuba nale mvakalelo, kodwa ukuba ukhululekile kwaye uphelile, kungenzeka ukuba uyenze ukuba uthanda okanye awuyi.
Kukho izinto ezimbalwa onokuzenza ukuze ulungele ukuhlangabezana nale mvakalelo:
- Gcina amehlo akho kumvuzo. I-Cancer ingaba yinxalenye yowenu iqabane lakho, kodwa alichazi. Gxininisa kwiimpawu ohlala uthanda ngazo malunga nesiqingatha sakho, makube kukuhleka, ukumomotheka, okanye umntu ongenakho umntu onokufumana. Lezo zimpawu zilapho.
- Yenza izicwangciso ngekamva. Khumbuza ukuba kukho ikamva emva komhlaza. Zama ukuceba kunye neqabane lakho. Ukuba uyayiphikisa, yamkela njengento onokubuyela kuyo kamva. Usenokumangaliswa kukuba ixesha lesibini (okanye lesithathu), umlingane wakho uya kuba khona apho.
- Xoxa zakho iimvakalelo. Akukho ndlela yokusingatha iimvakalelo zakho xa uzigwinya. Ukubonakalisa iimvakalelo zakho , zombini ezilungileyo kunye nezimbi, kukuvumela ukuba wabelane ngendlela ozivakalelwa ngayo kunokugxila kwisiganeko esingabavuselela loo mvakalelo. Imizwa yinto onokuyilungisa kunye nokutshintsha; iziganeko kunye neemeko zihlala zingekho.
- Funa inkxaso . Njengomlingane womntu onomdlavuza, awukwazi ukuzenza njengedwa. Amaqela enkxaso, nokuba yindabuko kunye ne-intanethi, ziindlela ezihle kakhulu zokwabelana ngemvakalelo yakho ngokukhululekile nangenacala. Amalungu abefundisi, abacebisi, kunye nabahlobo abathembekileyo nabo bathengisa kakuhle. Xa uncedwa ngakumbi, unokuxhotyiswa ngakumbi ukuba uya kubaxhasa umthandayo.
- Fumana uncedo ngaphambi kokuba uyidinge. Kwimarike ye-intanethi yanamhlanje, kukho iindlela ezininzi zokufumana uncedo ngokupheka, ukucocwa, ukunakekelwa kwezingane, ukuthenga, kunye nezinye izinto ozenzayo. Fumana kubahlobo kunye nosapho, okanye ujike kubamelwane uncedo ngonqabile okanye ukuthenga. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kuphazamiseka okubangela ukuxhalabisa okukhulu.
- Thatha ikhefu. Ukuncedwa ekukhathaleleni kubalulekile kwimpilo yakho engqondweni nangokwenyama. Nangona uziva unetyala malunga nalo, ukuthatha ikhefu linye ixesha kukuvumela ukuba uphindele kwaye ufumane umboniso ukuze ulunge kakuhle ukunyamezela ekhaya. Ii-arhente zempilo zasekhaya zengingqi zinokukunceda ukufumana abanonophelo bakwazi ukunyuka kwiyure okanye ezimbini, ukuncedisa ngemisebenzi yasendlini kunye neminye imisebenzi xa uzinika ixesha lokuhlaziya ibhetri yakho.