Nazi iimbono ezimbini ekuzimeleyo kubantwana abavisayo.
Abazali bamele banike i-autistic yabo inkululeko yokuzimela? Ngaba kufuneka "uhambe," nokuba umntwana wakho usemncinci kakhulu ubudala? Drs. UCindy Ariel noRobert Naseef, oogqirha beengqondo abasebenza ngeemfuno ezizodwa iintsapho zinikeza iingcebiso zabo.
Ukusuka kuDkt. Cindy Ariel:
Ibhalansi phakathi kokubamba nokuvumela ukuba ihambe enye yezona zinto zinzima kakhulu kubazali bethu kufuneka sijamelane nazo.
Ngelo xesha ebomini bomntwana wakho, kunokufanelekile ukuthatha ezinye izihlalo zangasemva kwiimeko ezininzi. Unako ukugcina imigca yonxibelelwano evulekile nomntwana wakho kwaye uncede enze oko azama ukukwenza.
Kuzo zonke iintsholongwane, kulindeleke ukuba sibe ebomini babo nangaphandle kobuso babo ngexesha elinye. Ukuba umntwana wakho unenkathazo yokunxibelelana kwezentlalo , ngelixa ngoku kungafanelekanga ukuba ubeke 'idethi yokudlala' okanye uhlale uququzelele amaqela akhe asekuhlaleni, unakho ukunika iziphakamiso zithile kumfundisi okanye inkokeli yeqela kwaye unokuqeqesha unyana wakho ngasemva.
Enye imbono ebalulekileyo ukugcina engqondweni kukuba abanye abaselula abafuni ukusebenzisana ngakumbi nangona abazali babo bevakalelwa kukuba kubalulekile ukuba babe nalo. Kubalulekile ukuba uqiniseke ukuba iinjongo zentlalo ozimiselayo umntwana wakho zibandakanya oko akufunayo ngoku kwaye akunjalo nje into ocinga ukuba kufuneka abe nayo okanye enze.
Akunakuze abe ngumphefumlo weqela kwaye unokuhlala esincinane kwinqanaba, kodwa kuye le nto ingaba yindawo epholileyo kunye nento ayisebenzisayo. Inokubonelela ngokubambisana nentlalo kunye nobudlelwane kwaye nokho inikeze umgama okhululekileyo kwaye kungekhona uxinzelelo oluninzi. Ukuba ufuna ngaphezulu, unokumnceda afunde ukunyuka kwaye afikelele ngakumbi kwizinga lakhe.
Ukusuka kuDkt. Robert Naseef:
Xa ubambelele, nini ukuyeka ukuhamba, nini ukuchukumisa, kwaye nini ukukrazula; Le ngenye yeengqungquthela umzali ngamnye ojamelana nazo-"eziqhelekileyo" kunye nabantwana "abakhethekileyo".
Iziphumo zabantwana kunye nentsha zilunge xa abazali nabaqeqeshi besebenza njengabalingani kunye nokuhlonipha intsebenziswano. Abazali, ngenxa yobudlelwane babo kunye nomntwana wabo, banamagunya okwenene ngokwabo, ngolwazi lokunikela ngokungabikho mntu onokufikelela kuwo. Iingcali, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngokuqeqesha kunye namava, unokunika ubungcali kunye nembono ebanzi ukuba abazali bodwa abanalo. Ngamnye unolwazi oluthile, ngolwazi olupheleleyo olusebenzayo kumsebenzi weqela-kaninzi ityala kunye nephutha libandakanyeka. Ukuba umntwana wakho udala ngokwaneleyo, ukuba kunokwenzeka, kufuneka abe neengcali kunye nawe ukwenza isicwangciso. Oko akucinga ukuba uyayifuna kubalulekile ekufikeleleni kwisicwangciso esihle kunye nethuba lokuphumelela.
Ukuvumela ukuhamba kunokuvakala kakhulu, kwaye mhlawumbi kunjalo. Mhlawumbi indlela ebonakalayo ngakumbi yokujonga le ngxaki kukuba ukhulule umthwalo kwaye ubone oko kwenzekayo. Ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakala ehlehlela emuva, oku kungakholisa abanye ukuba ufuna inkxaso engaphezulu kunokuba bacinga.
Ukuba unokwazi ukuhlangabezana nale ngxaki, unokumangaliswa. Kukho iindlela zokungavimba kwaye ezingenakukhunjulwa kunye neengqungquthela kule nkqubo. Asikwazi ukulawula oko, kodwa sinokulawula indlela esabela ngayo kubo.
Ukwahlukana phakathi komntwana wakho we-autistic kunye nabanye abantu bakhe ubudala kunokuba nzima nakakhulu xa ekhulile. Ezinye zezihlobo zakhe ezilungileyo zihamba phambili zingabanye abatsha abakhula ngokuxilongwa kwi-autism . Abanye abantu bayakukhathalela oku kuba banomdla, ngokuqondakalayo, ukuba abantwana babo bamkele uluntu. Inyaniso kukuba umntwana wakho uya kufuna ukuqhubeka nenkxaso kunye nokukhokelwa, ezinye zazo kubaqeqeshi abanolwazi, ukuqhubeka nokuphuhlisa intlalo.
Nangona oku kungabangela uxinzelelo lwezezimali, inzuzo yexesha elide iphezulu ngaphezu kweendleko zokungamkeli le nkxaso.
Ingumzila omude kunye okhuphayo wokuphakamisa umntwana we-autistic. Kunzima ukwazi ngasiphi na ixesha umzuzu owamkeleyo ukuba wamukelani nento omele usebenze ngayo. Umsebenzi womzali awupheli-uguqule nje. Zinike isithuba esifanelekileyo kumqolo ukuze ufumane oku kude. Khawunakekele kakuhle.
URobert Naseef, Ph.D., kunye noCindy Ariel, i-Ph.D., ngabahleli abaququzeleli be "Iimvo ezivela kwi-Spectrum: Abazali, oogogo nomkhulu, abazalwana, abantu abane-Autism, kunye nabaSebenzi Belana Ubulumko Babo" (2006).