Iingcamango zikaPollyanna ngaphandle, yintoni eyenza ujabule ukuba uyisithulu?
Xa usisithulu okanye unzima ukuva ungasoloko uzibuza ukuba kuya kuba njani ukukwazi ukuva. Sekunjalo, kukho kwakhona amaxesha xa unomdla wokuba uyisithulu!
Cinga zonke iingxabano ozilahlekileyo. Kananjalo akufanele uphulaphule zonke izandi zomzi oxakekileyo okanye ukuba iindudumo ezivusa abantu ebusuku. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kukho imingcipheko yokuba sisithulu , kodwa xa kuyinyani kufuneka sijonge kwicala elikhanyayo, naye.
Makhe sihlolisise ezinye zezinto abantu abakuzonwabisa ngazo ngokungakwazi ukuva. Zininzi zale zifuna ukuhlaziywa kwaye yile ngongoma.
# 1 - Unokwenza I-Out Out Noise
Ukuva abantu baxhomekeke kuzo zonke iintlobo zengxolo yengingqi kwimpilo yabo yemihla ngemihla. Ukususela kwiimoto ezixhamla kwisitrato ukuya kumculi omkhulu wommelwane wakho okanye inja engayi kukuyeka ukukhahlaza, kukho inzame enokuthi ungaphuthelwa ngokuba yizithulu. Oku kuyinyaniso ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba uhlala kwindawo edolophini okanye kwindawo yokuhlala.
Kukho iimeko apho abantu abazizithulu banombulelo ngakumbi abanako ukuva. Izindlu zokuphumla zikarhulumente kunye nokukrazula izingane ziyimimiselo emibili epheleleyo apho abo bangayiva mhlawumbi banqwenela ukuba abanako.
# 2 - Unokugxekisa abazali bakho okanye uMlingani wakho
Abantwana bathanda kakhulu ukukwazi kwabo ukuva oko abazali babo bathethayo. Xa umama ebacela ukuba bathathe inkunkuma, banokuhlala bebuyela kwisizathu sokuba abazange bakuve.
Oku kuya kuphazamisa abazali, kunjalo, kodwa abantwana abazizithulu babonakala benomdla kunye nalo mdlalo.
Ngokufanayo, ukuba ulwalamano oluthulu-mva kukho izinto ezintle zokungava omnye umntu. Ingxabano inokuphelisa ngokukhawuleza ukuba umntu omnye akanakukuva, akunene? Kwaye ungasifaki ukuqala ngokungakwazi ukuphulaphula iqabane lakho lokulala!
Oko ngokwayo kubangela ubusuku obuninzi bokuphumla.
Ukuhleka ngaphandle, kubalulekile ukuthetha kunye nosapho lwakho. Ukusebenzisa ukuzithoba kwakho njengesizathu sokuba onke amaxesha angakhokelela kwiingxaki ezinkulu.
# 3 - Unako ukuhlala kwiDrama
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kukho iingxoxo ongase ulahleke ngenxa yokuba uyisithulu, kodwa kukho nento eninzi uvuyayo ukulahlekelwa kuyo. Abanye abantu abanqweneli ukuthetha ngeentlebo kunye nezinye iidrama eziqhubela kwingxoxo yansuku zonke, kodwa ezi zinto zenzeka nanini na okanye nayiphi na indawo. Abantu abaninzi abayizithulu badla ngokubonga ukuba abakwazi ukuva ezi zinto.
Ngokufanayo, njengomntu oyisithulu oye "ulahlekelwa" ekuphulaphuleni abapolitiki, qhubeka, kwaye akudingeki ukuba uthathe inxaxheba kwiingxoxo eziqhelekileyo, kwaye unesizathu sokuhlala ngaphandle kweengxoxo. Ewe, unako ukuthatha inxaxheba kulezi zinto ukuba uthanda, kodwa kunenzuzo yokuba uyakwazi ukungahoywa umkhulumi omde.
# 4 - Unokuhlala emva kwaye ubukele
Ukuqwalasela abantu kuyonwabile kwaye inani labantu abayizithulu bafumana ukukhawulwa kwabantu. Xa ungekuva izandi ezincinane okanye ukuthetha okungahleliwe, kwenza ukuba izenzo zabanye abantu zihle kakhulu.
Oku akutsho ukuba uhlekisa abantu. Kunoko, ngokungabikho kwesandi, izinto ezincinci zingathatha intsingiselo entsha.
Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umyeni wakho ngokukhawuleza uyaphambukela, ephosa iingalo zakhe njengendoda yasendle, mhlawumbi ungazi ukuba wayegqwetshiwe yiyosi. Iimpawu ezinjalo zinokuba zikhohlakele xa zisuswe kumxholo.
# 5 - Unokuphephela iiNcingo ezingafunekiyo nezingxoxo
Nangona ebudeni beminxefowuni, iifowuni ezingafunekiyo zokuthengisa ziyingxaki kubantu abaninzi. Ukuba unzima ukuva, unokuhlala usisebenzisa isizathu sokunyaniseka ukuba awukwazi ukuva abo bathengisayo. Akulona buxoki obuchanekileyo, akunjalo?
Kufuneka uqaphele "ngeentetho zokukhetha" nangona kunjalo. Ukungenzi oko umphathi wakho abuza ngenxa yokuba "ungayiva" inokukufumana kwingxaki ethile, ngoko uzama ukuthabatha oku.
# 6 - Unokufumana uxolo kunye noxolo
Kukho uxolo oluthile olungafumaneka xa ungekuva. Abantu abaninzi abayizithulu abasebenzisa izixhobo zokuvavanya bayavuma ukuba bawaphelise xa befuna nje ukuphepha konke okubangqongileyo. Ithelevishini okanye abantwana baninzi kuwe? Unako ukuwacoca ngokucacileyo.
Oku kubhenela ukomoya olungakumbi okanye ucinga ngobomi. Xa udinga imizuzu embalwa wedwa ukuba ucinge, thandaze, okanye ucamngce, kulula ukukwenza xa ungekuva oko kukujikelezile.
# 7 - Unokuba ngumphulaphuli ongcono
Kubonakala kungenangqiqo yokuba abanye abantu baziva ukuba abayizithulu banokubenza babephulaphuli kakuhle, kodwa kunjalo. Ukuba ucinga malunga nokuphulaphula njengethuluzi lokunxibelelana kunokuba ube nolwazi olunzulu oluphicothiweyo, ungazibona iphuzu lawo.
Ukuphulaphula abantu kunokuthabatha ukuphulaphula, abantu abayizithulu bavame ukuphulaphula ngenjongo engakumbi. Ukufunda imilomo kunye nolwimi lwezandla, ukuqonda ulwimi lomzimba, okanye ukugxininisa ngokukodwa ukuthabatha izandi kunokukunceda ngakumbi. Oku, kunokukunceda uqonde oko kuchazwayo kwaye uphendule ngengcinga.
# 8 - Unokonwabela uluntu olusisithulu
Ukuzikhukhumeza kuyinyani kwaye abantu abayizithulu bazaliswe ngabantu abaneentlanga ezizikhukhumeleyo ukuba zizithulu. Olu bhonkco phakathi kwabantu abangakwazi ukuva into ongeyifumani rhoqo phakathi kwabo banako. Akunjalo wonke umntu oyisithulu unyanisekileyo kwaye uyinyaniso, kunjalo, kodwa abaninzi banomdla kwaye uluntu lusekela kakhulu.
Ingaba uzalwe isisithulu okanye ulahlekelwa yindlebe, kunokwenzeka ukuba ufumane abanye ababelana ngamava akho. Uluntu olusisithulu luyaqina, luzele ubugcisa, inkcubeko, kunye neminye imisebenzi ejabulisayo engayi kuba yinto efanayo ukuba wonke umntu angava. Ukuba akukho nto, unokuvuya kukuba awunabo.