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Ukukhetha isibonelelo sokunakekelwa kwabantwana kubantwana abakhubazekileyo kunokuba yinkqubo echitha ixesha, kungekhona ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo ezihamba kunye nokufumana indawo efanelekileyo kumntwana wakho. Abazali bafuna ukufumana isibonelelo esinikela ngononophelo olungcono kunabantwana babo kunye nokuba umntwana wabo uya kuvuya.
Azikho zonke izakhiwo zokunakekelwa kwamasango ezenziwe zilinganayo, nangona kunjalo.
Ukongezelela, imithetho malunga nokunyamekelwa enikezelwayo iyahluka ukusuka kwiindawo ezizimeleyo ukuya kwiindawo zoluntu zonyango, kwaye ukusuka kwiphondo ukuya kwilizwe. Ngoko ke, kubalulekile ukuphanda zonke iinkalo zesibonelelo ngaphambi kokubeka umntwana wakho ekunyangweni. Isinyathelo sokuqala esihle kukuqinisekisa ukuba uhlolisise ukhetho oluphezulu lwabantwana kubantwana abakhubazekileyo.
Imvelo yengane yomntwana wakho inokudlala indima enkulu kwimpumelelo yakhe yangaphambili.
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Xa uphando malunga nesibonelelo sokunakekelwa kwabantwana kubantwana abakhubazekileyo, kukho izinto ezininzi ezahlukahlukeneyo zokuqwalasela. Ezi ziza kubandakanya yonke into esuka kwingqalelo yomntwana wakho onokuyilindela ukuyifumana, ekukwazi ukuba umntwana wakho ahambe ngeenxa zonke kwindawo yakhe, kwindawo yakho "isisu" sengqondo malunga nento efanelekileyo.
Ukuvavanya nokwenza isigqibo kungabonakala kuwumsebenzi onzima, kodwa ukuthatha ixesha lokuqwalasela izinto ezilandelayo kunokukunceda unciphise ukhetho lwakho kwaye uncede ugxininise kwizibonelelo eziza kufeza ngokufanelekileyo iimfuno zomntwana kunye nomntwana wakho.
Thatha ixesha lokuqwalasela:
- Ukungena kwiziko / ukufikelela. Ngaba ukungena kwendawo yokunakekelwa kwamasango kufinyeleleka? Isibonelelo esibangela abakhubazekileyo kufuneka sibe neendlela okanye ukuphakamisa okunceda abo basebenzise amacebo okuhamba ukuba bakwazi ukufikelela kalula kwisakhiwo. Iingcango ezizenzekelayo ziyimpawu yokuba iyindawo efikelelekayo.
- Izixhobo zangaphakathi. Ingaphakathi leziko kufuneka ibonakale icocekile, iphunga licocekile kwaye libe neengcango zamagumbi okufundela, iitafile, izitulo kunye namagumbi okuhlamba. Ukuba kukho umgangatho ongaphezu kwesinye kwisakhiwo, ngaba kukho ikhefu yabafundi basebenzisa amacebo okuhamba? Thatha ixesha lokuba uhambe ngqo kwisiko ukuze uzive ngendlela umntwana wakho eya kuhamba ngayo ngosuku lwakhe.
- Umntwana weklasini ukuya kubasebenzi. Ukuze umntwana athole ingqalelo abayidingayo, bafuna ixesha elilodwa kunye nomfundisi ngangoko kunokwenzeka. Kwezinye iimeko, umntwana angadinga uncedo ochitha lonke usuku nomntwana ukuqinisekisa ukuba zonke iimfuno zabo ziyadibana.
- Uphando lwezakhono zoboneleli. Ngaba ootitshala banezakhono, uqeqesho kunye namava ukuba bafundise umntwana ngokukhubazeka okuthile? Ungesabi ukubuza malunga nemvelaphi yazo nawaphi na ootitshala kunye nabafundi be-paraprofessionals abaza kusebenza nomntanakho. Njengoko uyazi kakuhle, njengomzali womntwana onesifo sokukhubazeka, "incwadi ethi" i-smarts "kunye" nesitrato "isenokungafani. Ngaba ootitshala nabanye abasebenzi babonakala benamava abasebenza kunye nomntwana onesifo sokukhubazeka njengakho, kunye nokunye, kubonakala ngathi banomdla wokwenza njalo? Qiniseka ukuba indawo ekhethiweyo inabasebenzi abanezakhono ezifanelekileyo kunye namava okunyamekela umntwana okhubazekile.
- Indawo yokufundisa. Isiko esona sikhulu sokunakekelwa kwamasango sinemeko enemfundo ekhuthaza ukukhuthaza ukukhula ngokomzimba, ngokomzwelo nangentlalo yabo bonke abantwana eklasini. Khangela igumbi lokufundela apho abantwana babandakanyeka kwaye bavunyelwe ukusebenzisana. Ngokubanzi kunokwenzeka kwaye uvumelekile, thatha ixesha lokuya kwiiklasi ezimbalwa uze "uphakamise eludongeni" ukuze ufumane ingcamango yokuba umntwana wakho uya kuba namava ngalunye suku.
- Ukulungiswa nokukhokelwa. Ukuqwalasela iklasi ngokuqhubekayo kunye neminye imisebenzi yeqela ekhokelwa ngabafundisi. Ziziphi iindlela zokuqeqesha ezisetyenziselwa ukugcina ukulawula iqela labantwana? Abantwana bayakhokelwa njani ukwenza oko kufunwa ngabo eklasini? Ungacingi ukuba unempendulo, kwaye ucele ngokuthe ngqo ukuba ziphi na iingxaki eza kuthethwa ngazo, ukucinga ngeengxakini ezinokuvela nomntwana wakho. Ngaba ukhululekile ngale ndlela? Ngaba abasebenzi baya kukubiza ukuba kukho inkxalabo? Kubalulekile kunoma yimuphi umntwana ukuba kukho ukuhambelana phakathi kwendawo yokutya kwendawo kunye neendawo zasemakhaya. Ukuba kukho nayiphi na inkxalabo onayo malunga nefilosofi ezahlukileyo kwakho, zivelise ngokukhawuleza, ngaphambi kokuba umntwana wakho angene kuloo ndawo.
- Ixesha lokuphendula abasebenzi. Njengoko ukhangele iklasi okanye omnye umyalelo ukuba umntwana wenza into efuna impendulo yomfundisi, ilinde ixesha elingakanani? Ngaba kukho iiklasi eklasini elingancedisa utitshala ukuba abone iimfuno ezikhawulezileyo zabantwana? Kwakhona, ukuthatha ixesha lokuhlala kwimisebenzi yamagumbi okufundela, ukuba oku kuvunyelwe, kuya kukunika ithuba lokujonga ngendlela oku kusebenza ngayo kwinkathalo yosuku oluthile.
- Izinto ezicwangcisiweyo. Ngumhla oqhelekileyo unjani kwisiko lokunakekelwa kwamasango? Fumana ukuba uluphi uhlobo lwezinto ezicwangcisiweyo nsuku zonke. Buza ukuba uhambo lwenkonzo lunikezelwa kwaye ukuba kunjalo, kaninzi kangakanani. Ngaba kukho indawo yokudlala, i-gym okanye ichibi lotyando kwindawo?
UkuNakekelwa kweMpilo kunye neMfundo eZodwa
Ezinye izakhiwo zonyango zifana nezibonelelo zemfundo ezizodwa, kanti ezinye azikho, kwaye mhlawumbi zinokuba zilungele ukuxhomekeka kwiimfuno zakho. Kukho amaziko aphezulu kakhulu anikezela ngononophelo kweso kwinto ebonakala ngathi iyona yesikolo sasemveli, ngaphandle kwabafundi bonke abakhubazekile. Kwabanye, isibonelelo sokunakekelwa kwamasango sinokuba yindawo yokuba abantwana banakekelwe ngethuba lemini, ngaphandle kokulindela imfundo ngenxa yezinga eliphezulu. Amanye amaziko anokunyamekela abantwana abakhubazekile ukuya kwiminyaka engama-22, ngenxa yemithetho karhulumente evumela abantwana abakhubazekileyo ixesha elide ukuba bagqibe imfundo yabo yesikolo esiphakamileyo. Uluhlu olubanzi lwezinto ezikhethiweyo lubonisa ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukutyelela isikolo kwaye usebenzise uluhlu olungaphezulu apha ngaphezu kwimibuzo kunye neenkxalabo ozifakayo kwoluhlu.
Okukwintsusa
Ngenxa yokuhlala ixesha elide umntwana angayisebenzisa kwiinkonzo zonyango okanye kwindawo ekhethekileyo yemfundo, kubalulekile ukuba uqiniseke ukuba zonke iimfuno zomntwana zidibana njengoko zikhula. Xa ukhetha indawo efanelekileyo yokunakekelwa kwabantwana abakhubazekile, umzali unokuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana uya kufumana ingqwalasela abayifunayo xa umzali engazange alunge ukunyamekela ukunakekelwa kwabo kwaye afumane imfundo efanelekileyo ngokwamakhono abo.
Inkqubo inokubonakala ibangele, kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba ufumane indawo yokunyamekela umntwana kumntwana onesifo sokukhubazeka esinikezayo oko akufunayo kwaye akunike ukuqinisekiswa okufunekayo ukuze usebenze kakuhle kwaye ukhululekile xa engekho. Cinga onke amanqaku kwiso lokukhangela apha ngasentla kwaye uthathe ixesha lokunceda nayiphi na into enokuzifumana kunye neqhayiya ozifumene yona kwinkqubo. Ewe, ininzi yesigqibo sizithoba kwaye umntwana wakho uyenajaji. Usenokufuna ukugcina amanqaku emva kokutyelela indawo nganye. Mhlawumbi ubeke uphawu "lonwabo" okanye "inzala" kwinqanaba eli-1 ukuya ku-10. Abazali abaninzi banako ukufumana ukunakekelwa kwesosiko ukuba abayithobeli kuphela, kodwa bayamangalisa.
Ekugqibeleni, khumbula ukuba nasiphi na isigqibo ozenzayo asisigxina. Yenza indawo kwikhalenda yakho ukuphinda uhlaziye isigqibo sakho, nokuba ngaba kanye ngeveki okanye kanye ngonyaka, into ebalulekileyo ukwenza njalo.
Iimfuno Eziqhubekayo
Ukukhetha ukhetho lokunakekela umntwana okhubazekileyo luyinyathelo elifanelekileyo xa ufuna ukusebenzela, kodwa kuthiwani xa ufuna ukuhlala ubomi bakho ngezinye iindlela?
Kwaye ekugqibeleni, ekugqibeleni, iimfuno zokugcina iintsuku kufuneka ziqwalaselwe. Ingcamango yokunakekelwa kwezilwanyana kunye nokusulelwa rhoqo. Unokuba uceba ukubuyela emsebenzini kodwa uzive unetyala njengabanye abazali (kwaye zibi nakakhulu, izihlobo) zithetha ngendlela umntwana wakho ukhubazekile ngayo sele akwazi ukuvelisa izifo. Ewe, abantwana abasesikweni banokufumana unyango. Kwaye, abantwana abangekho ekunakekelwa kwamasango bafumana ukusuleleka kwezifo xa beqala isikolo. Ukubuyela emsebenzini akufanele kube luhambo lwezono kuwe. Abantwana abaninzi abakhubazekileyo bayaphumelela kwimeko yokunakekelwa kwamasango ngendlela abangazange bakwazi ngayo ekhaya. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba ukhululeke ngokunyamekela kwengane yakho, kwaye oko kungadinga ukuxhoma iindlebe zakho kwiindinyana ezibhekiselele kakuhle kodwa ezibuhlungu onokuziva kule nkqubo.
Thatha ixesha lokufunda malunga namaMerika aKhubazekileyo (uMthetho we-ADA) nendlela oku kunokuchaphazela ngayo wena nomntwana wakho. Phantse onke amaziko okunakekela abantwana ngasese azimele amkele i- ADA .
Imithombo:
I-Strawhacker, M. Makuqala Amanyathelo: Ukwenza utshintsho kwiSchools. UmNesi wesikolo weNASN . 2013. 28 (5): 242-5.