Iimvakalelo eziqhelekileyo ngelixa zilinde iziphumo zovavanyo lwezonyango
Ukulinda ukuxilongwa ngenye yezona zinto zinzima kunokuba umntu ahlangabezane nazo. Ukuba unempawu ezingathandekiyo, ezinjengeentlungu, isisonguluko, ubunzima obuhambahambayo, utywala, okanye ingxaki yokulala (ukubiza ezimbalwa), elinde ukufumana ingcali , ukuba uvavanyo lubekwe ucwangciso, okanye ukuba iziphumo zebhu buyela emva nje ukunyusa ukungahambi kwakho.
Akunakho kuphela ukulinda ukwandisa ukukhathazeka kwakho, kodwa ukungaqiniseki kukushiya ubonakala ungenayo ihange.
Kukho abantu abaye bakhululwa xa befumana ukuxilongwa kakubi, kuba ubuncinane unokuqala ukwenza into yokujongana nokuxilongwa. Ngokungaqinisekiyo ushiywe kwi-limbo, ungazi kakuhle ukuba kufuneka uzive njani ngenxa yokuba ungazi ukuba ubhekene nani.
Ukuba ujongene nobunzima bokutshintsha ubomi-kunye nezifo ezingabonakaliyo ziwela kulolu hlobo-ukulinda kunokunyaniseka ngakumbi. Yaye ukuba ujongene nokuxilongwa kwesifo esibulalayo okanye enye iya kukunciphisa wena okanye ubomi bakho obathandayo ngokubanzi, ukulinda kungabi nantoni. Akulona nje ulinde ukuxilongwa okungafuna unyango, kodwa ukhangele ukuba yeyiphi ikamva lakho elipheleleyo. Wonke amaphupha akho kunye nethemba.
Le ngenye yeemvakalelo onokuzifumana ngexesha ulinde ukuxilongwa. Ngaba uziva ngathi?
Ukunyamezela Xa Ulindele
Ukunyamezela mhlawumbi umvakalelo wokuqala abantu abaninzi abavakalelwa xa belindele ukuxilongwa.
Abaninzi kuthi "bangabenzi," basebenzisa ukujongana nemeko, ukuxazulula ingxaki, nokuqhubela phambili. Ukulindela ukuqeshwa, inkqubo, okanye ukubonisana kunokukunika umvakalelo "wuleza uze ulinde." Ngokomzekelo, ngelixa ulinde iiveki ngenxa yokugula kwiphumo elivela kwisibalo sakhe sokubuya ebhabheni, omnye umfazi wathi, " Ndiziva ngathi ngumlindi weganga. "Wayefuna ukwenza okuthile malunga nokuxilongwa kwakhe, kungekhona nje ukulinda.
Omnye umfazi watshelwa ukuba uya kufuna i-ultrasound ukuxilongwa. "Kulungile, sinokukwenza namhlanje?" Watsho ugqirha waza wadimazeka ukuva ukuba ayiyi kucwangciswa kwiveki ezayo.
Ukunyamezela kungasebenzisa indlela engaphaya kokuxilongwa kwaye ufake ezinye iindawo zobomi bakho. Unokuziva unomonde nomgca ukuze uphume kwindlela yokupaka kwiziko lonyango lakho. Unokuziva unomonde kunye neqabane lakho okanye abahlobo obanikezelayo imisebenzi. Emva koko, abanakuyinyamekela into elula ngelixa ulinde into enzima kangaka? Usenokuze ube nesineke kuwe, uzibuze ukuba kutheni kuthatha ixesha elide ukwenza ezinye zezinto oye wazikwenza.
Ukukhungatheka
Ukukhungatheka kubhekisela ekuthintekeni kwenjongo okanye isenzo. Omnye okhungathekileyo malunga nokufumanisa i-diagnostic unokuziva enganelisekile, exhalabile okanye edidekile. Xa uxelelwa ukuba awukwazi ukufumana i-aphoyintimenti kunye neengcali zenyanga ezintathu, ukuba iziphumo zolu vavanyo olukhethekileyo zithatha iiveki ezintandathu, okanye ukuba emva kokubona oogqirha abane bengayazi into ephosakeleyo nawe, unokuziva udidekile.
Njengokungaphelelwa umonde, ukukhungatheka kunye neenkqubo zonyango kunokukwazi ukuqhubela kwezinye iindawo zobomi bakho. Unokuvakalelwa xa kukho ukuxuba kunye ne-inshorensi yakho.
Unokuvakalelwa kukuba i-tape ebomvu yomgaqo-nkqubo wakho womshuwalense uthi ufuna ukuba ubone umntu obanjwe kwiinyanga ezimbini ezizayo esikhundleni somntu onomiselweyo kusasa. Ngamanye amaxesha le nkxwaleko ingaqhuma. Emva kwakho konke, akunakuvakalelwa "ukhuselekile" ukukhulula ukukhungatheka kwakho kwikliniki apho ufumana unonophelo (okufuneka ukuba ube "isigulane esihle") kwaye ekugqibeleni uyeke ukuba umyeni wakho akhohlwe ukuthaka ubisi kwivenkile .
Intukuthelo
Abantu abaninzi abangapheliyo kunye / okanye abaxhalabisayo banokuvakalelwa. Lo mlilo udla ngokubhekiselele kwinkqubo yonyango ekwenza ulinde ukuxilongwa kwakho.
Ngamanye amaxesha iimvakalelo ezinomsindo zingakhanjiswa kwizinto ezinokuvelisa, njengokuzikhuthaza okanye umthandayo. Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha iimvakalelo ezinomsindo ziphazamisekile, njengomchwepheshe webholo ozama ukuthatha isampuli yegazi ukuze uvavanyo. Abahlengikazi baya kukuxelela ukuba babone izigulane ezininzi kunye neentsapho zibethelela kubasebenzi bezonyango-kunye nakwabo. Unokuziva unxiliswe ngayo yonke inkqubo yokuxilonga kwaye uzive nje ukuhamba kude nento yonke.
Ukuxhalabisa
Ukuba ulindele ukuxilongwa okubangelwa yimpembelelo enzulu, unokuziva ukhululekile kwaye utyhafile. Unokuvakalelwa kwaye ingqondo yakho inokukhathazeka ngayo indlela ukuxilongwa ngayo kunokuchaphazela wena kunye nabathandekayo bakho. Emva kokuba uqale lolo qeqesho lwengcinga, luyaqhubeka kwaye luqhubeke. Unokuba neenkathazo zokulala ebusuku, zifumane ukhathazekile, okanye uzixakeke ngokucinga malunga nokuxilongwa. Ukuxhalaba kuyisimo esifanelekileyo kwisimo sengqondo sokusongelwa. Inxalenye yokulwa okanye ukusabela kwendiza eyenzelwe ukusikhusela kwingozi. Sekunjalo xa iingozi esicinga ngazo zivela kwiingcamango zethu, kunokuba sisengozini esicacileyo esicacileyo phakathi kwethu (njengengonyama ehlaselayo) impendulo ingakhokelela ekukhathazeni ngakumbi kunye nokunyamezela njengokuba ngoku umzimba wethu uphendula (kunye ukwanda kwentliziyo, ukuphefumula ngokukhawuleza, kunye nokunye.)
Ukuxhalabisa, njengaleminye imizwelo, inokuqhubela kwezinye iinkalo zobomi bakho. Ngezinye iinkhathi abantu abanomhlaza bathi banokuziva bengenakukwazi ukwenza izigqibo ezilula, nokuba nezigqibo ezinjengelokuthi ingubo yokugqoka.
Usizi noxinzelelo
Ukulinda ixesha elide lokuxilongwa kunokukwazi ukukhokelela ekubeni ungeke ulawule izinto okanye ukhululeke. Unokuziva ungenathemba malunga neemeko zakho. Ukuba neenkqubo zonyango zihlala zenza ulinde izinto-zokuqeshwa, izivivinyo, ukubonisana, iziphumo-kunokukwenza uzive ngathi ulahla ithawula kwaye ushiya nje. Ungakhalela kungekho sizathu kwaye ungaziva uthanda ukwenza into eninzi.
Kunokuba nzima kakhulu, ngamanye amaxesha, ukuba wazi ukuba ujongene nokudakumba okanye ukudandatheka. Ungesabi ukucela uncedo ukuba usizi lukudonsa.
Ngaphantsi - Iingxelo eziqhelekileyo zokulinda
Inyaniso kukuba, zonke iimvakalelo ziqhelekileyo kumntu olindele ukuxilongwa. Kusele ixesha elide ukuba ulinde, iimvakalelo ezingakumbi onokuzifumana, kunye neyona nto ivakalelwa ngakumbi. Kubantu abaninzi, ukuthetha nabahlobo, intsapho, umntu wobufundisi, kunye / okanye umcebisi kunceda kakhulu ekujonganeni nale miva xa ulinde ukuxilongwa. Abanye abantu bakuthola kuncedo ukudibanisa neqela lenkxaso (okanye uluntu oluxhomekeke kwi-intanethi, ngokukodwa ngezifo ezingaqhelekanga) ezinikeza ithuba lokuba uthethe nabanye abaye baziva le mivakalelo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukukwazi nje ukuva kumntu oziva izinto ezifanayo kukunceda kakhulu, kukukhumbuza ukuba nangona ulinde yodwa, awuyedwa.
Ukongeza kwinto eqhelekileyo, kukho izinto ezimbalwa onokuzenza ezinokukunceda (ngaphandle kokuqonda ukuba awukho wedwa.) Qinisekisa ukuba ungummeli wakho ekunyamekeleni kwakho . Ukuba awunomuvo wokuba uhamba ngendlela elungileyo okanye ukuba uziva ukuba ababoneleli benonophelo bezempilo abaxhuli kakuhle, bathetha. Njengoko sibonile, iimpawu ezinxulumene nokuxilongwa kwakho ziyakwenza ngcono le mvakalelo. Ukuba ujamelana nobuhlungu obungapheliyo , qiniseka ukuba oku kuthethwa ngawo. Ngamanye amaxesha udibana nodokotela obuhlungu uyadingeka ukongezelela nantoni na into oyenzayo (ewe, uyaxolisa, omnye uqeshiso.)
Zibuze ukuba kukho na enye into ongayenza (ukufutshane ukufumana ukuxilongwa kwakho ngokukhawuleza.) Ngaba kufuneka uqeshe i-nanny yenxalenye yesikhokelo ukunceda nabantwana? Ngaba kufuneka uvumele abantu ukuba bancede (oku kunzima kulabo abenza uhlobo lwabuntu.)
Kuthekani ngabantu abaphakathi kwakho. Ngaba unayo abahlobo abalungileyo abancedisayo ukuba nethemba lokuba unokuchitha ixesha elininzi? Ngakolunye uhlangothi, unayo "abahlobo abanetyhefu" onokuyidinga ukuyidiliza?
Kwabathandwa
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba, ngelixa abantu abambalwa bafumana ukugula bodwa, bambalwa abantu abanokubandezeleka kokulinda bodwa. Abahlobo kunye namalungu entsapho banako ukuva onke la mazwi xa ulinde ukuxilongwa. Enyanisweni, uncedo olungathandabuzekiyo oluthandana nabo lunokubaluleka le miva ngakumbi. Ngelo xesha, ungazive ukhululekile ukubonisa ukukhathazeka kwakho, ukunyamezela, kunye nokuxhalabisa. Ngokumalunga nalabo bajongene nobunzima bokuxilongwa, kuninzi abantu abanomdla abanomdla kwi-intanethi abazinikezele kwiinkathalo zentsapho ezijongene noxilongo olunzima (okanye ulinde omnye) kumntu othandekayo.
Imithombo:
Kasper, uDennis L .., u-Anthony S. Fauci, noStephen L .. Hauser. Iinqununu zeHarrison zeMithi yoPhakathi. ENew York: imfundo kaMc Graw Hill, 2015. Print.