Ukugula okungapheliyo njenge- fibromyalgia (i-FMS) okanye isifo esingapheliyo sokugula ( ME / CFS ) kunokuba nzima kwimpilo yakho yentlalo. Ngokukodwa xa ufanele uhambe emsebenzini wakho okanye uthinte indlela ekuhlaleni, kuya kuba nzima ukudibana nabani na onokuba nomdla wokuthandana.
Unokuzibuza nokuba ubani unokufuna ukutshata nawe. Kuyinkxalabo yendalo ukuba unamathele kwi-coaster coaster yobomi kunye ne-FMS okanye i-ME / CFS.
Qiniseka ukuba, abantu abaninzi kwimiba yenu kunye nokubi baye bafumana umntu okhethekileyo. Ewe, ujongene nemingeni xa kufikelele ekuhlanganiseni abantu kunye nokuphuma ngemihla, kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba ufumane umntu onomdla-kwaye ngubani onomdla kuwe, ngokunjalo.
Kwakuqhelekileyo kukuba abantu abaninzi badibana xa behamba ubomi babo. Emsebenzini, kwi-gym, esontweni, ngabahlobo bobudlelwane. Ewe, oko kusenokukusebenzela, ukuba unako ukuhlala uhileleke kwezo zinto. Ukuba awukho, unokuba ufuna ukucinga ngokuthandana kwikhompyutha.
Njengoko ukuthandwa kwamasayithi okuthandana kuye kwenyuka, uhlazo luye lwahla. Kuye indawo eqhelekileyo kubantu ukuba badibanise kwiziko ezifana neTinder, Bumble, Grindr, OKCupid, eHarmony, Match, okanye yethuTime.
I-Intanethi Ukuthandana ne-Fibromyalgia kunye neSyndy Syndrome
Ukuba awuzange uzame ukuthandana kwikhompyutha, kunokusongela. Kuza kunye neenzuzo zangempela kubantu bethu abangenakuphila ubomi kwenkampani ngeveki yonke, nangona kunjalo.
Okokuqala, akudingeki ukuba ugqoke kwaye ubeke umgudu wokujonga kakuhle kwaye uya kwindawo ethile. Unokukhangela ukusuka ekhaya kwiiparajama zakho ukuba ufuna, kwaye akukho mntu uya kuba nobulumko. Ngethuba nje unomfanekiso omnandi okanye ezimbini ukuba ufake iprofayili yakho, ulungile ukuhamba.
Okwesibini, unokwazi malunga nokugula kwakho.
Le meko inokuba nzima xa udibana nomntu ubuso nobuso. Ngokomzekelo, tshela udibana nomntu kwi-barbecue yomhlobo. Uthetha, uyitshitshisa, utshintshe amanani eenombolo. Kuhle! Ngaphandle kokuba mhlawumbi awuzange ukhankanye ukugula kwakho, akunjalo? Ndiyathetha, ngubani othetha ngeengxaki zabo zempilo nabantu abangaziwayo kwi-barbecue?
Ngoko ke ujongene nombuzo omkhulu: ndiza nini na ukugula kwam (es)? Yimeko ekhohlakeleyo yokuhamba. Kungokwemvelo ukwesaba ukwenza okukhawuleza. Unokuba ufuna ukuba umntu azi kuqala kuwe, ngoko banokubona zonke izinto ezikude eziza kwenza ukuba iingxaki zempilo zakho zilungele ukujongana nazo.
Kodwa ke kukho umngcipheko wokulinda ixesha elide, okwenza ukuba kubonakale sengathi ufihlile. Ukwabeka umngcipheko wokuba ukhansele izicwangciso ngenxa yokugula kwakho phambi komnye umntu owaziyo ngako.
Faka iphrofayili yokuthandana kwikhompyutha. Uninzi lwabantu abanezifo ezingapheliyo zibeka imimiselo yazo ngaphambili kunye neziko, ukuqinisekisa ukuba ubani onomdla kubo uyazi kwasekuqaleni. Abanye bangabonisa ingxaki yempilo kodwa bangangeni kwiindawo ezithile. Kwaye, kunjalo, uhlala unakho ukhetho lokushiya ngaphandle kwiprofayili yakho kodwa uxelele abantu obavakalisayo ngomyalezo ekuqaleni.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, awukwazi ukubatshela ukuba uhambe kwiintsuku ezimbalwa, kodwa uphelela kwimeko enobungozi kwakhona.
Naluphina ulwalamano lobudlelwane luza kukuxelela into efanayo: thembeka. Leyo ndlela eyona ndlela ibaluleke kakhulu yokuqala ulwalamano. Kwaye ngokwenene, ufuna ukufumana umdla kumntu onokukulahla umzuzu owuthi uyagula? Ngaba bekungekho nto ingcono ukubeka amandla kulo mntu? Ukhangelele umntu onenkathalo kunye nokuqonda, ngoko-ke uphume ngaphandle kwangoko uze uzigcine ixesha elichithekileyo kunye nentlungu.
Umhla wokuQala
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba udibene nomntu, umhla wokuqala ungabangela iingxaki kubantu abanemiqathango.
Uninzi lwethu lwazi ukuba lukhulu kangakanani udidi lokuba lukulungele ukuphuma, ngakumbi xa ufuna ukujonga okusemandleni akho.
Ukongeza kuloo mzamo wokuba uluntu kunye noxinzelelo lomhla wokuqala, kwaye sinokube sibheka ukutshatyalaliswa kwempawu.
Le yilapho inokuba yimpazamo enkulu ukuba ungamvumeli omnye umntu ukuba azi nto ngokugula kwakho. Awufuni ukuba enze icebo into eyanzima kakhulu kuwe, njengebhokisi, okanye ukugibela amahhashi, okanye ukudansa, okanye ukudlala ibhola lepalati.
Le yenye indawo apho iphrofayli ye-intanethi inokukunceda khona, nawe-unokubeka iintlobo zakho eziphambili, kwaye ngenxa ye-algorithm yesayithi kunye nenkqubo yokhetho lwakho, wena kunye nomhla wakho uya kuthandana ukwenza okufanayo izinto.
Ukuba kungowokuqala ukudibana nomntu kumntu, ngenxa yokhuseleko, kungcono ukudibana kwindawo kawonkewonke kunezindlu okanye zabo. Nangona ufuna nje ukudibana kunye nokudlala imidlalo yebhodi, khangela ukuba kukho ivenkile yesigcino okanye ivenkile yekhofi apho ungaya khona esikhundleni. Iipaki ezinokumnandi, kwakhona, ukuba imozulu ilungile kwaye akufanele uhambe kakhulu.
Kukho ixesha elide lokulinda lokutya kunye ne-movie, engathathi mandla amaninzi. Ukuba unempilo yokukhathazeka, kunjalo, kufuneka ukhethe okanye ucebise indawo ezimbalwa apho uyazi ukuba unokuhlala khona.
Ukubeka i-Pace
Enye indawo apho ukunyaniseka kufike khona kukubeka isantya sobudlelwane. Ukuba unomntu ogijimayo, ungayi kuhlala ixesha elide.
Ukuba awukwazi ukulawula ukuphuma kanye okanye kabini ngeveki, phaya phambili malunga naloo nto. Khangela abantu abanomdla kwimini yokuthula ekhaya, okanye nayiphi na into ovakalelwa ngayo.
Kufuneka ubeke isantya malunga nomzimba wobuhlobo, ngokunjalo. Nangona i nokuba nemiphumo embalwa yokwelapha, isondo sithatha amandla amaninzi. Qinisekisa ukuba iqabane lakho liyazi ukuba unakho na ukuba kukho ukuhweba-ungadinga ukhetho phakathi kokuphuma kusihlwa kunye nokulala ngesondo xa ungenayo amandla bobabini.
Unokuba ukhathazeke kukuba awukwazi ukuphatha ubuninzi bobomi bobulili nhlobo. Kungenzeka ukuba unokwakha kwakhona impilo yakho yesondo ukuze ufumane iimpawu zakho.
Kungenzeka ukuba ubulili buninzi kakhulu kuwe, kwaye kulungile. Ukuthandana kwe-intanethi kungabhonasi apha kwakhona, ekubeni unokukhangela abantu abaxhatshazwayo okanye abafuna ubuhlobo ngaphandle kobudlelwano bobuhlobo. Zikhoyo!
Yaye ukuba awukwazi kakuhle ukuphuma kumhla kodwa ufuna umntu athethe naye? Kukho abanye abantu ngaphandle befuna into efanayo.
Yiba ngqiqo
Ngaba unakho ukwakha iprofayili yokuvakalisa isigulo sakho esingapheliyo kwaye ube neendlela ezininzi zokuthumela imiyalezo kwiiyure nganye? Cha. Lindela ukuba kuthathe ixesha. Lindela ukufumana i-jerks yangempela endleleni. Ngokuphathelele ukufumana idayimani, nangona kunjalo, ayikho inqwaba yamatye.
Emva kokuba ufumene umntu onokukwazi, kuthatha ixesha lokubazi kwaye uphakamise ubudlelwane. Isiseko sokunyaniseka nokuthembela kunokukunceda ukuba uhambe unyawo olunene.