Xa umntwana wakho efunyaniswa ukuba ene-autism-ngokuqhelekileyo phakathi kweminyaka emi-2 no-4-ubomi bubonakala buya kwi-overdrive. Kukho utyando lwabagqirha ukuba balungiselele, oogqirha ba tyelele, kwikhaya lokuncedisa ukulawula. Kukho iincwadi kunye neewebhusayithi zokufunda, ulwazi lokuphonononga ... kwaye, mhlawumbi kubaluleke kakhulu, ixesha lakho kwikhaya kunye nomntwanakho ngokukhawuleza liba "ixesha lokunyanga".
Endaweni yokuphumla phambi kwevidiyo okanye ukuxhoma ngaphandle kwendlu, usebenza nomntwana wakho ukwakha izakhono zonxibelelwano, izakhono zentlalo kunye nezakhono zokudlala.
Akulungele ukuthatha ihlabathi elitsha elinoxanduva ngelixa unika umqeshi wakho ixesha elipheleleyo, ingqwalasela.
Ukuba ungumzali ongabodwa, kunethuba elihle lokuba awukho ukhetho kodwa uthabathe iinkonzo ezinikezelwa kuwe kwisithili sakho okanye kwi-arhente yasekuhlaleni, wenze okusemandleni akho ukubonelela xa usuka ekhaya uvela emsebenzini. Kwaye, ixesha elininzi, umntwana wakho uya kulungela. Ngelixa isikolo, ukungenelela kwangaphambili, okanye inkqubo yesithili kungekhona "iCadillac" yonyango, mhlawumbi iquka iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zonyango, ezinikezelwa ngabasebenzi abaqeqeshwe, kunye nexesha lakho elijolise xa ufika ekhaya liya kunceda ukuzalisa naziphi na izikhala.
Indlela yokucinga malunga nokuyeka umsebenzi wokunyamekela umntwana onamandla
Kubazali abadibeneyo, ukhetho luyinto enzima.
Kwiimeko ezininzi, ucinga ukuba uzimisele ukuzincama, kunokwenzeka ukuba umzali omnye akhiphe umsebenzi wakhe wokunyamekela umntwana othethileyo othetha ukuba kukho isigqibo sokwenziwa.
Ukuba ungumntu, amathuba okuba uziva unzima kakhulu ukuyeka umsebenzi wakho ukuze ufumaneke kumntwana wakho nge autism.
Oko akuthethi, nangona kunjalo, ukuba le ngcamango ayiyi kuwela ingqondo yakho. Kwezinye iimeko, ngokukodwa xa uMama efumana ngaphezulu okanye enomsebenzi ngeenzuzo, kuba yi-autism yexesha elizeleyo uTata unokuba yinto enokwenene nengqiqo.
Ukuba ungumfazi (kunye nenxalenye yeso sibini), amathuba ukuba uzive unamandla ngakumbi ukuba ube yimfuneko yesikhathi esigcwele umama. Emva kwakho konke, abaninzi abanomama bayeke umsebenzi wabo ukuze bafumaneke kwizingane zabo eziqhelekileyo, kwaye umntwana wakho udinga kakhulu kunomntwana oqhelekileyo.
Uyenza njani eso sigqibo? Nazi izinto ezimbalwa zokuqwalasela:
- Ngaba unako ukuyithengisa? Ukuba uyeka umsebenzi wakho kusasa, ngaba umvuzo wakho womlingane uza kuhlawula ubomi obukhokelayo? Ukuba akunjalo, ngaba kukho izinto ezinokuzilungelelanisa eziza kusebenza kakuhle kuwe (ukwabelana ngesithuba, ukunciphisa iindleko, njl)? Ukuba impendulo ayikho, musa ukuyenza: umntwana wakho akayi kusebenza kakuhle ngumzali ohlala exhalabile malunga nokufikelela kwimigangatho.
- Ingaba umntwana wakho ufuna ingqalelo yexesha lakho elipheleleyo? Abanye abantwana abane-autism banako ukusebenza kakuhle kwizicwangciso eziqhelekileyo kwaye badinga unyango oluncinane ngaphandle kwesikolo esikolweni, ngelixa abanye banemilinganiselo enzima kunye neemfuno.
- Zilungile njani iinkonzo ezisekelwe ezikolweni kunye neenkonzo ezibonelelwe nguRhulumente kwindawo yakho? Ukuba uhlala kwindawo yedolophu, okanye kwezinye iindawo ezithile zelizwe kunye nehlabathi, umntwana wakho uya kuba nokufikelela ngokuzenzekelayo ku- ABA , unyango lomsebenzi , unyango lwezonyango, unyango lwezentlalo , kunye nenkxaso yangaphandle ngaphandle kwakho, umzali, uchitha ixesha elide ukulibeka okanye ukwenza ukuba kwenzeke. Kweminye imimandla, kunene konke ukunyusa, ukuhlawula, kunye / okanye ukubonelela ngeempiliso.
- Uvakalelwa njani ngokuba ngumlingane wakho wexesha elipheleleyo? Kukulungele ukucinga ukuba bonke abazali bakulungele, bazimisele, kwaye banako ukuchitha usuku kunye nomntwana ongu-autistic, kodwa inyaniso kukuba yinto enzima. Ngokuqinisekileyo, uninzi lwabazali banako ukubonelela iiyure ezimbalwa zonyango kwikhaya, kodwa iiyure ezingama-12 okanye ezingama-18 ngosuku lixesha elide. Ukuba ufumanisa ingcamango kunokukhathaza, wena kunye nomntwana wakho ungaphunyezwa kangcono ngokusetyenziswa kweenkonzo zengcali. Yaye, ukuba usebenza, ungabahlawula.
- Uvakalelwa njani ngokuyeka umsebenzi wakho? Abanye abantu bayabathanda ngokunyanisekileyo umsebenzi wabo kunye nabaphathi babo baseofisi xa abanye beqwalasela ngokutshintsha inguqu yomsebenzi. Ukuba uyonwabile ngokwenene emsebenzini, ukushiya inzuzo yomntwana wakho kunokukhokelela ekugwenxeni kunye nokukhungathekiswa kwinqanaba lakho eliguqulela kumava ambi kumntwana wakho. Ngenye indlela, le nto ingaba yeso sizathu sokuba ufune ukuthetha umsebenzi ongazithandiyo!