Ukudandatheka nokukhubazeka kunokuhamba ngesandla, kuxhomekeke kwinkqubo yokuxhasa umntu. Abahlobo, amalungu omndeni, kunye namaqela enkxaso yonke inxalenye yenkqubo efanelekileyo yokuxhasa umntu okhubazekile. Nangona abanye abantu babonakala bezimeleyo kwaye bengabonakali badinga nantoni na okanye nabani na, ukuba nomntu okanye iqela labantu baxhomekeke xa izinto ziba nzima kunceda abantu abakhubazekileyo banokulwa nokudandatheka.
Kungekudala ukhubazekile
Ukutshatyalaliswa ngokutsha, ukuxinezeleka kuqhelekileyo. Baye bangena ekubeni banakho ukuxhomekeka kuncedo lwabanye. Ba nobunzima neemvakalelo zabo zokuba banamandla kunye nokuzama ukuwamkela ukusilela kwabo ngokomzimba okanye ngokwengqondo. Ukuvuma ukukhubazeka okutsha akusoloko kulula; ezininzi, kunokuthatha iminyaka ukuvuma ngokupheleleyo ukuba abakhubazekileyo kwaye abanakukwazi ukwenza ezinye, okanye ezininzi, izinto ababezilungele ukwenza. Kuqhelekile ukuba bazive bebuhlungu okanye bathukuthele njengoko bebuhlungu ngenxa yokulahlekelwa ngumntu wabo wangaphambili.
Abakhubazekileyo ekuzalweni
Abanye abantu abakhubazekile ngexesha lokuzalwa. Basenokuba nokukhubazeka okwakubangelwa ukuba bazalwe, okanye ingxaki yemfuyo ebangela ukukhubazeka kwabo. Nangona abanye bangatsho ukuthi ukukhubazeka ngokuzalwa ngandlela-thile kwenza izinto zibe lula, ezinjengokuphuhlisa iindlela zokuncedisa ukususela kwiminyaka yobudala, abanye bengabelana ngombono ofanayo.
Abo bakhubazekileyo beselula banokuchitha iminyaka befuna ukuwamkela kunye noontanga babo nootitshala, kunzima ukudala ubudlelwane obutsha, banenkathazo yokuguquka baze babe ngabantu abadala kwaye ekugqibeleni bawuthathe umsebenzi.
Izimpawu zoxinzelelo
Abantu abaninzi banesistim sokuncedisa kakuhle, njengabahlobo kunye nosapho ababanceda bahambe ngexesha elibi.
Nangona kunjalo, baninzi abangenalo iinkxaso zenkxaso abayidingayo, ingakumbi ukuba abasanda kukhubazeka bahlala kwihlabathi elinamandla. Akuyinto engavamile ukuba ngamanye amaxesha ube ne "kutheni na?" Umzuzu xa ubhekane nobunzima ebomini, ngakumbi xa ukukhubazeka kubonakala kubangela ubunzima. Nangona kunjalo, xa umntu evakalelwa ngathi ihlabathi lichasene nabo bonke ixesha, banokuba neengxaki zokudandatheka, kungekhona nje "i-blues."
Ezi zilandelayo zibonakaliso zengcinezelo yekliniki:
- Unzima ukukhumbula izinto, ukugxila okanye ukwenza izigqibo ezilula
- Ndiziva ndikhathele lonke ixesha nangona ndilala ngokwaneleyo
- Ndiziva ndingenakunceda okanye ndingenanto
- Ukuziva ungathembeki
- Ukulala okanye ukulala ngaphezu kokuyimfuneko
- Ukuhlala udimazeka kwaye unenkathazo yokuthoba
- Ukulahlekelwa ngumdla kwizinto owake wathanda ukuzenza
- Ukwandisa ukutya okanye ukulahleka kwesidlo
- Ngokuqhelekileyo uzizwa egula, ezinjengeentloko, iingxaki zokugaya okanye ezinye iintlungu ezingenakuchazwa
- Imiva engapheliyo yokudabuka okanye ukuxhalabisa
- Ukucinga ngokuzibulala okanye ukuzama ukuzibulala
Ukufumana Uncedo
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu abakhubazekileyo baphathwe ngokukhubazeka kwabo, kodwa abanalo iimfuno zabo zengqondo okanye zokomoya.
Oogqirha bezonyango kaninzi abacebisi, kwaye ngoko abanako ukuqonda ukuba isigulane sabo sineengxaki zengxaki. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, izigulane (ezikwaziyo) zifuna ukuba ngummeli wazo. Oku kuthetha ukuthetha kunye nokuvumela ugqirha wezempilo oyintloko okanye ochwepheshe ukuba bazive bebuhlungu okanye bexinezelekile kwaye ufuna umntu othetha naye. Abanakekeli nabo kufuneka baqaphele iimfuno zomntu abakhubazekile kwaye bajonge iimpawu zokulumkisa. Umnakekeli unokuba ngumgca wokuqala wokukhusela ekuncedeni umntu ohluphekayo ekuphumuleni.
Kuqhelekile ukuba uzive usizi okanye udidekile kwiintsuku ezimbalwa malunga neziganeko ebomini bethu, kodwa ukudabuka okanye ukudandatheka okuhlala ixesha elide kuneentsuku ezimbalwa kufuna uncedo oluvela kumgqirha wezonyango okanye umcebisi oqinisekisiweyo.
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