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Tyaba obawo: Ngaba uyihlo wayethetha nawe ngokucacileyo malunga nokukhathazeka kwezempilo? Ngokuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yakho, impendulo mhlawumbi ayikho. Kodwa kukho impawu ezi malunga nokutshintsha.
Uphando lwelizwe lubonakalise ukuba iingu-62 ekhulwini zooyise kunye noonyana banqwenela ukuba uyise ufumane ngaphezulu kwezihloko zempilo. Ngenxa yoko, iipesenti ezingama-43 zooyise abanentsapho abangathethi ngokuvulekileyo ngempilo yabo bathi bafuna ukuphula umzekelo.
Izizathu zokuphepha ezi ngxoxo ziqhuba i-gamut kwisithethe ukuze zihlazeke. Abanye bathi abakwazi ukuthetha nabantwana babo ngezihloko zempilo kuba uyise (umfanekiso) akazange akhulume nabo ngabo, nokuba njalo.
Abanye baziva behlazekile okanye bathi abanakufumana amagama. Abanye bayesaba unyana wabo abayi kuthanda ukuthetha malunga nesihloko okanye abanakufumana ixesha elifanelekileyo lokuphakamisa umba.
Njengogqirha ogxile kwimpilo yabantu, ndincoma ukuba ungene umntu kwaye ube neengxoxo ezibalulekileyo kunye noonyana bakho. Unokufumana iintetho zingonwabi. Ungazifumana zingenakwenzeka. Kodwa gcina le nto engqondweni: Akuncinci ngawe kunokuba ngunyana wakho.
Unxibelelwano luya kuphucula-ngandlela-thile
IKlinikhi yaseCleveland yenza i-survey, "MENtion It," kuma-500 amadoda aneminyaka eyi-18 ubudala nangaphezulu abahlala kwilizwekazi lase-US. Inzululwazi yayisindelwe ukuba ibe ngummeli kazwelonke malunga nommandla, ubudala kunye nohlanga / ubuhlanga.
Bonke abathathi-nxaxheba babeyizintata okanye oomata kumfana kwaye baba noyise okanye ubaba bafana nokukhula.
Phantse iipesenti ezingama-70 zooyise zathi iintsapho zabo zathetha ngokucacileyo ngemicimbi yezempilo kunye nexhalaba, nangona babengabantwana. Phantse ezibini kwisithathu (iipesenti ezingama-62) zabaphenduli ababesele babefisa ooyise.
Kwaye malunga neepesenti ezingama-47 bathi babengayazi imbali yabo yempilo yentsapho baze baye kudokotela njengabantu abadala.
Oobawo banamhlanje banabantwana babonisa ukuqonda oko kubalulekile ukuthetha malunga neendaba eziphathelele kwimpilo.
- Phantse iipesenti ezingama-80 ziye zahlolwa kwiinyanga ezimbalwa zokugqibela okanye kunyaka ophelileyo.
- Amashumi amabini amabini eepesenti ancoma ukuba aye kugqirha ukuze ahlolwe rhoqo .
- Phantse isiqingatha (ama-52 ekhulwini) cebisa abanye ooyise kunye noonyana ukuba bafumane ubuninzi malunga nembali yabo yonyango kunye ne (50 ekhulwini) baxelele abantwana babo.
- Iingamashumi amane nesithoba kwipesenti zincoma ukuthetha ngokuphathwa kwezempilo ngaphambi kokugula okanye isidingo sokunyamekela ugqirha. (Le ngcebiso ilungile!)
Ukuthula Akufanelanga Amandla
Ingxaki enkulu kwiingxoxo zezempilo kubonakala kungenakuxubusha ukuxubusha iingxaki zempilo yakho ngenxa yokwesaba ukubangela intsapho ingakhathazeki ngokungadingekile, ngenxa yokukhetha kokhetho oluye lwabangela inxaxheba kwimpilo, okanye ibonakale ibuthathaka. Unokuba uziqhenyce ngokuba yi-stoic, kodwa ukuhluleka ukuzisa iimpawu ugqirha ugqirha wena kunye nosapho lwakho engozini.
Ndinezigulane ezinegazi emgodini wazo iminyaka emibini ngaphambi kokubona ugqirha. Igazi emthini ngumqondiso wesifo somhlaza wesisu , odla ukuphilisa xa ufumaniswe ngethuba.
Ngexesha elidlulileyo le minyaka, isibetho sinobudlova okanye singenakuphulukiswa.
Ukuba uthe cwaka ngenxa yokuba uvakalelwa ukuthetha ngamagama athile, ndiyakwazi ukuxela. Xa ndiqalise uqeqesho lwam ogqirha, ndakufumananga kakhulu ukuthetha amagama afana ne "penis" kunye ne "scrotum." Akukho sizathu sengqiqweni salesi sidima; yinto nje yentlalo ehlala kuyo. Ndiqinisekisa ukuba uhlala uthetha la mazwi, kulula ukuyifumana.
Ubungozi bokungazi
Ukukhusela umdlavuza yisona sizathu esibalulekileyo sokufuna ukwazi imbali yakho yonyango yonyango nokuyidlulisa. Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa ndibuza izigulane malunga nomdla weentsapho zabo zomhlaza okanye isifo abaxhalabele ngabo, bathi, "Ubawo unento ethile, kodwa andiyazi ukuba yintoni."
Ukuchazela amava akho kunye neengxaki zonyango kunokukhusela ubomi bonyana bakho. Unomdlavuza omkhulu, kuquka i-prostate kunye nomdlavuza wekolon, unomdla wokuzalwa. Ukuba wena okanye naliphi na ilungu losapho olusondeleyo lomhlaza wesibeletho ngaphambi kokuba uneminyaka engama-50, kubalulekile ukuba unyana wakho aqale ukuhlolwa kweso sifo kwi-40s. Ngenxa yokuba abantu base-Afrika-baseMelika basengozini enkulu yomhlaza wesifo seprotate, sinokucebisa ukuba siqalise ukuhlolwa kwangoko, ukuba kukho imbali yentsapho yesi sifo.
Ukufundisa unyana wakho indlela yokuzihlola ngokubalulekayo kubalulekile kwesizathu esifanayo. Umhlaza wesiqhelo uqala ukuphazamisa amadoda aselula aneminyaka engama-15 ubudala kunye neqondo lokunyanga lama-98 ekhulwini xa ebanjwa kwaye ephathwa ngokukhawuleza.
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Uphando lwabonisa ukuba ootata abaninzi abanoonyana banokuziva bekhululekile ukuxoxa ngembali yentsapho yempilo kunye nonina, kunokuba uyise. Kwaye amadoda aseminyaka yonke ahlolisiswayo athetha ukuthetha ngemicimbi ethile yempilo kunye nomntu oyise, kunokuba ubaba wabo. Konke kuhle kwaye kulungile, kodwa basadinga ugqirha.
Wonke umntu osemtsha kufuneka ahlakulele ubudlelwane kunye nogqirha oyinkathalo oyintloko oza kusebenza njengekota kwikota yamagqirha, xa kufuneka ingxaki yonyango. Lo ugqirha uya kujonga zonke iindidi zeengxaki zonyango, kungekhona nje ezo zihambelana nempilo yamadoda, kwaye uqinisekise ukuba unyana wakho ufumana iimvavanyo zokuhlola ezifanelekileyo ngexesha elifanelekileyo.
Emva kokuhlolwa kokuqala kwesigulane, unyana wakho akumele afune ukumbona ugqirha iminyaka emininzi. Inyaniso kukuba, awukwazi ukuba uya kuba nengxaki yonyango. Xa umntu ekhulayo, akufanele uqhube ukufumana uncedo.
Ukuba unalo ubudlelwane kunye nogqirha wezonyango lokuqala, ungabiza xa unenkinga kwaye ubuze oko kufuneka uyenze ngokulandelayo. Ugqirha uyakukubona okanye ahlele ukuba u tyelele i-urologist okanye enye ingcali efanelekileyo.
Ukuqhawula ukuthula
Ukuba uphakathi kwamadoda angesabi ukuxoxa ngemiba yempilo kunye neentsapho zakho, bhuqa kuwe! Ukuba ulungele ukuqala ukuthetha kunye noonyana bakho malunga nemiba yempilo kunye nokukhathazeka, nantsi oku kufuneka uxoxe ngako:
- Xa uchaza ubulili, xubusha ingozi yezifo ezidluliselwa ngesondo kunye nenkcazo yendlela amantombazana akhulelwa ngayo.
- Bakhombise indlela yokwenza uvavanyo lokuhlola kwi-shower. Batshele ukuba bamele benze njalo ngenyanga baze baxelele ukuba bakuxelele ukuba baziva naziphi na izibonda okanye izibonda.
- Thetha nge-dysfunction erectile kwaye ingaba ngumqondiso wesifo senhliziyo xa bekhula.
- Batshele ukuba babone ugqirha ngokukhawuleza ukuba benempawu okanye iimpawu zeyiphi na ingxaki yezokwelapha kwaye ukuthula akuyena uphawu lobutyebi.
- Batshele intsapho yakho kunye nembali yakho yempilo yeengxaki zonyango. Ukuba awukwazi oku, cela uyise okanye ezinye izihlobo zegazi ukuba zixelele oko ziyazi.
Ooba sele bathetha nabantwana babo malunga nempilo yabo okanye icebo lokwenza njalo bathi iminyaka yobudala eyi-11 ukuya kwe-12 yithuba elifanelekileyo lokuqala. Ukuba ukhetha ukulinda de kube ngumntu omdala, bhala phantsi imbali yakho yonyango kunye neyonyango kwaye uyishiye kwindawo ephephile xa usuhamba ngaphambi kwangoko.
Yenza Umsebenzi Wakho
Ukuba wenza umsebenzi wakho njengobawo, uya kuba neengxoxo ezininzi ezingenakuzixhamla kunye nezingane zakho njengoko zikhula. Ukuthetha ngempilo kufana nokuthetha ngokuphathelele uxanduva lwezezimali, indlela yokuba ngumlingane omhle okanye umzali, okanye uchaza ukuba kukuphi ukufa. Kufuneka ufune ubunzulu ukufumana amagama ukuxoxa ngalezi zinto. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kumnandi ukuthetha nabantwana bakho ngemidlalo, imozulu, okanye umsebenzi, kodwa ekugqibeleni, impilo yabo-neyakho-ibaluleke kakhulu.
> Umthombo:
> INENtion It Survey, Clinic yaseCleveland, ngo-2017.