Ukuba Kukho Umhlobo Onomdlavuza
Inkxaso yemoya yinkalo ebalulekileyo kuyo nayiphi na ubudlelwane. Ukuxhasa othandayo ngomhlaza kuyisipho esibalulekileyo esiza kubancedisa ngexesha elilukhuni. Naliphi na umgudu owenzayo ukufikelela kunye nokunikela inkxaso kuya kudibana nokuxabisa okukhulu. Sekunjalo, kukho izinto ezimbalwa eziza kukukhumbula engokukunceda ekuxhaseni umthandayo oyanceda ngokwenene kwaye uya kukunceda ukuphepha ukungongeza uxinzelelo kwiimeko.
Mamela
Ngokuqhelekileyo into enokuyenza ukuba umhlobo wakho wosapho onomdlavuza abe ngumphulaphuli omhle. Kulula ukubanjwa ngokuzama ukuthetha into efanelekileyo okanye unikele ngombono wakho, kodwa zama ukuyeka ukwenza oku, ingakumbi kumntu osandul 'ukuvavanywa.
Umthandana wakho ufumana iimvakalelo ezininzi kwaye unokufuna nje ukuhamba. Ukuba nguloo nto umhlobo wakho okanye ilungu lentsapho elidinga, baya kuba banombulelo kakhulu xa unokuba nguye oboleka nje indlebe.
Gwema Ukugxininisa kwimpendulo
Xa sinikwe ingxaki, ukuthambekela kwethu kwendalo kukufuna ukuyicombulula. Xa sifunda malunga nesimo esinzima esithandwayo ngumntu esimthandayo, ukuthambekela kwethu kokuqala kunokufuna ukufumana isisombululo kwingxaki. Ngomdlavuza, akukho namnye isisombululo esifanelekileyo.
Cinga ngomhlaza wesifo kunye nokunyango njengoluhambo. Izidingo zomntu ozithandayo ziya kutshintshwa ngohambo lwabo.
Ngokuphepha indlela yokuxazulula iingxaki, uya kuba uvule ngakumbi kwaye uqondisise ekuphenduleni iimfuno zabo.
Ulwazi loNikezelo Ukuba Ubuzwa, kodwa Ungayithandi
Enye indlela ebaluleke kakhulu yokuxhasa umthandayo ngomhlaza kukuphanda uhlobo lwabo lomhlaza. Ukuxhamla kwi-intanethi ye-intanethi ehloniphekileyo okanye qhagamshelana ne-arhente njenge-American Cancer Society kwaye ucele ukuba ulwazi luthunyelwe kuwe.
Unokuphinda ufune iincwadi zamanomdla we-colon wakho othandekayo unokufumana uncedo xa bekulungele ukufunda.
Gwema ukulahla umgca omkhulu wamaphepha etafile ekhitshini. Zama ukulungelelanisa ulwazi olubuncinci-olunjengeenkcukacha ezisisiseko malunga nomhlobo wesifo somhlaza - kwizinto ezinzima kakhulu - ziphi uhlobo lwezilingo zamachiza okanye iindlela zokwelapha ezivakalayo ezinokufumaneka, umzekelo. Ukuba unayo ixesha, unokuze uququzelele izixhobo kwi-binder ngokubhekisele kwiithebhu ezibhalwe kuyo.
Ungaxinzezeli umthandayo ukuba afunde nantoni na oyifakayo ngokukhawuleza. Ungatsho into enje, "Ndiyazi ukuba oku kufana nolwazi oluninzi, kodwa ungayifakela ngoku kwaye ufike kuyo xa ulungele." Unokuzifundela ngokwakho kwaye uxoxe naye nomthandayo .
Ukunika Uncedo NgemiSebenzi Yemihla ngemihla
Ukucela uncedo unokuvakalelwa njengokwamkelwa kokungaphumeleli. Ukuzama ukufumana indlela yokucela uncedo kunye naluphi uncedo olufunekayo lunokuba lukhuni,. Gwema ukuthetha into evulekileyo, ngathi, "Ndiyacela, ndixelele ukuba kukho nantoni na endiyenzayo ukunceda." Nciphisa umthwalo kumthandwa wakho ngokukhupha izinto ezithile ongayenza ukuze uncede.
Kunoko, tshela, "Ndiyakuthanda ukunceda. Ngaba ndingayimisa ngendlu yakho ngoLwesibili emva kwemini ukutshiza umtshini wakho?" "Ngaba ndingakuhambisa kwisiqendu sakho ngoLwesihlanu ozayo?" "Ngaba ungathanda ukuba ndikhethe abantwana bakho kwi-football practice?" "Ukuba undinike uluhlu, ndiza kuvuya ukuyeka ivenkile yokuthenga izinto ezimbalwa."
Olu hlobo loncedo luyaxabiswa kakhulu. Isibalulekileyo kukunikela ngoncedo ngokubonelela ngezibonelo ezikhonkco.
Khumbula: Akusikho Ngowe
Ngamanye amaxesha xa sifunda ngesifo somhlaza somntu osithandayo, kufuneka sihlalutye ngeemvakalelo zethu eziphikisanayo . Gcina ukhumbule ukuba lo mfo wesifo sokuxilongwa ngumhlaza awukho malunga nawe. Kwaye ukuba uyamxhasa umntu ophethwe ngumhlaza wentsholongwane, vumela ukuguquguquka nokuqonda. Into endiyifunayo namhlanje ingaba yinto ehluke ngokupheleleyo kwizinto abaza kuyidinga kusasa.
Musa ukubanjwa kwiinguqulelo, kuba utshintsho luya kwenzeka. Yenza okusemandleni akho ukuxhasa umhlobo wakho kwaye ugcine ugxininiso ekunyamekeleni.
Ncedisa, kodwa Musa ukuphazamiseka
Xa uqala ufunde ngomnye umntu ohlaselwa ngumhlaza, kulula kakhulu ukuba athi, "Hayi, loo nto iyingozi kakhulu," ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Gwema olu hlobo lokulimaza. Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukwazi ukuba ungathini, kodwa kulula, "andiyazi ukuba uthetha ntoni, kodwa ndiyaxolisa kakhulu ukuba uhamba nale nto," unokusebenza emangalisayo.
Vumela ukuthula
Uninzi lwabantu alukhathazi ngokuthula. Oku kuyinyaniso xa uthetha ngesihloko esinomdla njengomhlaza. Kodwa ukuzalisa yonke into ebalulekileyo kwingxoxo kunye neengxoxo ezingenangqondo kunokumangalisa umthandi wakho, kwaye ukuzama rhoqo ukuthetha into enokubangela ukuba kunokukukhathaza ngokwemvakalelo kuwe. Hlonipha ukuba ukuthula kulungile, kwaye ukuhlala nomhlobo oxhasayo ekuthuleni kungaba yintoni okufunayo ngumthandayo.
Gwema iindaba ezifanisa
Abantu bathanda amabali afanisa. Nangona omnye-ubeka ibali kungaba yinto ehlekisayo yokudibanisa nabantu malunga nezihloko ezingathí sina, ngokuqhelekileyo akunakunceda xa uthetha nomntu onomdlavuza. Amanani okuthelekisa anika indlela yokubonisa uvelwano kunye nokuqonda kwezi ntlobo zeemeko, kodwa wakho umthandayo mhlawumbi akayi kufumana iindaba zakho ezixhamlayo zokusebenzisa iindlela.
Lo mntu ujongene noxilongo olunzima kakhulu, kwaye uthetha ukuba umama wakho u-Joan unomdla ofanayo njani kwaye " wenza kakuhle" mhlawumbi akunakuncedo okanye uyakwazisa. Kude kuqatsele? Ukuthetha ngabanye abafa ngomhlaza. Oku akufanelekanga .