Kwininzi yethu, kunye neentsapho zethu zikhulile sonke, ngokuqhelekileyo sijonge phambili kwisigaba esilandelayo sokuziphendukela kwabantu abadala njengotatomkhulu-nzala: into ebangelisayo xa sinokunikela ingakumbi ixesha lethu kunye nokuqwalasela ngakumbi kunokwenzeka xa sikhulisa iintsapho zethu .
Kusenokuba usoloko unobungozi obubonakalayo kwaye usetyenziselwa ukufumana iindlela ezinobulumko malunga nomsebenzi obonakalayo.
Kule meko, abantwana bakho baya kuqhelana nokulungiswa kwindlela eyahlukeneyo yokukhulisa abazali, ethemba ukuba bayakwazi ukuchazela abantwana babo.
Kodwa kuthekani ukuba unomtsha ekulahlekeni kombono njengomntu okhulileyo oye wafumanisa ukuba unesilingo? Wena kunye nentsapho yakho ayisebenzisi kwimingeni ezayo.
Ngaba uyazibuza ukuba unokwenza njani ixesha kunye neengqalelo kubazukulwana bakho nangona umbono wakho unciphisa?
Iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba: Kakade unako!
Kuyinyaniso kwabanye ukuba kuya kufuneka babhekane neenkqubo zentsimbi-kunye-inyembezi ezinokuchaphazela amehlo abo, oku kuthetha ukulahlekelwa ezinye zezinto ezibonakalayo xa bebancinci. Kodwa, ukuba oku kwenzeka kuwe, nceda uqinisekiswe, ukuze unakekele kwaye uthande abazukulwana bakho, abafuni ukuba ubone - oko bafuna kakhulu kunabo bonke, nguwona umbono wakho.
Kwimeko yangaphambili, 6 Imisebenzi Enkulu kwi-Grandparents Blind kunye nabantwana ababonwayo , ndithetha ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba sisebenze ekuncedeni abantwana bethu abakhulu (kunye nabazali babo) ukuba baqonde ukuba ukungabikho kwamehlo akufanelanga nokungabikho kwexesha lokudlala.
Ukuba yimfama okanye ukungaboni kakuhle akudingeki kunciphise ukuzonwabisa kwethu.
Ndisandul 'uhambo lokuhamba ngethuba lokuchitha ixesha kunye nomzukulu wam oneminyaka engama-4 ubudala kwaye ndaqaphela indlela eguquguqukayo ngayo ukulungelelanisa indlela yam eyahlukileyo kubazali (nangona ndingumhlobo wakhe kuphela ongenakukhubazeka).
Ndiyabulela umama naye ekuqiniseni iimfuno zam ezahlukileyo , endaweni yokukhomba into ethile, ngokukhawuleza wafunda ukuba ukuze ndibe nesabelo kwintlalo yakhe, into leyo yayifanele ibekwe esandleni sam kuqala, ngoko ke ndabona .
Kwakunjalo ngokugqithisa intloko xa ephendula umbuzo: ukuba ndifumane ingqalelo, wayesebenzisa amagama angaphezu kweelwimi lomzimba awayezisebenzisa kunye nomama wakhe noTata.
Ngendlela elula ngayo ukuqeqesha isizukulwana esilandelayo!
Iindlela ezili-8 eziphila kakuhle njengoTatomkhulu kunye nombono ophantsi
Nazi iindlela ezili-8 onokuhlakulela ubuhlobo obunentsingiselo kunye nobudlelwane kunye nabazukulwana bakho. Khumbula, ezi ziphakamiso ezisekelwe kukuthandwa kwam umntakwabo, ke qiniseka ukuba ufunda izinto ezinjani abazukulwana bakho abazonwabileyo kwaye uya kuba ngumnqoli.
Ingqalelo ulwimi lwakho
Abantwana bafunda ngomzekelo. Oko sithethayo nokukwenza kuthonya 'umbono wehlabathi' kakhulu. Ngoko ke, kubalulekile ukusebenzisa ulwimi oluhle xa ufundisa ngelahleko lombono wakho. Kukho 6 C-Amazwi onokuwafundisa ngokukhawuleza .
Inyaniso yokuba unombono ophantsi ngoku awuyiyo inhlekelele kodwa yinyani. Kukulungele ukubonisa ukuba awuyiyo inkululeko ngenxa yokuba nguwe kuphela umntu osapho kunye noluntu abaziyo ukuba ngubani ohlala ebonakalayo.
Endaweni yoko, qalisa indlela yokudlala yokuthetha kunye nabazukulwana bakho kwaye wenze ukuba yimpumputhe okanye ibonakale ingabonakali inxalenye yobomi babo.
Abantwana banokuzibuza ngokungahambi kakuhle, ngoko khuthaza ukuthetha ngomlomo ngokuvuleleka kuyo yonke imibuzo yabo, ingakumbi 'i-silly' -yonke inxalenye yokubanceda babone kwimibono yakho ephantsi.
Yiba Nomnqweno Wokubonisa Ukulinganiselwa kwakho
Ngokucacileyo, kuya kuba nemisebenzi ebonakalayo ongeke ukwazi ukuyenza njengomntu oziboneleyo kodwa endaweni yokuba uzive uhlungu okanye unamahloni ngokungahambi kakuhle kwamehlo, vumela ukuvuma ukulinganiselwa kwakho. Ngokwenza njalo, unako ukukwazi ukuzinceda kwaye unokufundisa abazukulwana bakho ukukunceda ukuba ufumane esinye isisombululo sokumnandi kumsebenzi obonakalayo.
Ngokomzekelo, banokukuhambisa incwadi yabo ayithandayo ukufunda. Abantwana abancinci banomdla kakhulu kwimifanekiso eqaqambileyo kunye neendaba ezikhawulezayo ukuze ucele ukuba 'bafunde' le ncwadi ngokunyathela imizekeliso efana nokubeka abaphetheyo ingxelo abaya kuthanda ukuyenza okanye, ngokunye, unokunikela ukwenza into edibeneyo kunye.
Enye indlela yokwabelana ngeencwadi kunye nabazukulwana abadala abadala ngokuphulaphula iiklasi ezilalelwayo.
Izihloko ezininzi zinokufumaneka njengeNkonzo yeeThala leeMathala. Ngokuzibandakanya njengelungu leNkonzo kaZwelonke yeThala leeNcwadi eziPhuphukileyo (NLS) -we nabazukulwana bakho banokubambelela ngokusondeleyo kwaye ujabulele ukufundwa ngumbalisi wakho.
Ukuzithemba Kuvelisa ukuNeliseka
Uya kuba nobomi obungamava emva kwakho njengomntu onamakhono amaninzi ngokusekelwe kwiminqweno yakho. Yazi iitalente zakho kwaye wabelane ngazo ngokuzithemba.
Ngaba ungumpheki omkhulu , umninimzi onomdla, umenzi wobugcisa, umenzi wezinto, umthandi wezemidlalo, uhambahamba? Yintoni oyithandayo?
Ukwazi amandla akho unokwabelwana ngokuzithemba njengoko udlula kwizakhono zobomi bokwenene xa uchitha ixesha nabazukulwana bakho. Bayeke ukuba babone xa uthetha!
Ngokomzekelo, umzukulu wam kwaye andiyikunandipha nje ukuphuma ngaphandle kwintsimi kaMama kodwa saqhubeka nokudlala ngexesha lethu lokudlala kwimizi ngeeyure ngokusebenzisa iziqhamo kunye nemifuno enjengeyomdlalo wokutyala. Kulula kakhulu!
Nika ingcinga. Izinto zakho zokuzilibazisa kunye nezinto ezinqwenelayo zingabelana ngokuzithemba kwaye ziza kuzisa ukwazisa ngokutsha kwimpilo yabazukulwana bakho.
Uhlobo oluthile luyinyaniso ye-Spice Life
Zama umda wezinto zonke ukuze ufumane oko kukusebenza kakuhle kuwe nabazukulwana bakho.
Ngamanye amagama, ungalilahli lula kwaye uzive uphumelele xa umdlalo obonakalayo ukhubaza ukuthatha inxaxheba. Kunoko, yakha umdlalo onokuwudlala ngokubandakanya abantwana ukuba bancede bafike ngombono wenveli.
Umntakwabo wayecinga ukuba kumnandi kum ukuba ndimnike i-piggyback ride epakini. Nangona ndandibona kuphela amanyathelo ambalwa ngaphambili, ndabambelela kwingalo yomama ngexesha umzukulu wam unamathele emlenzeni wam njengesilwanyana esincinci (kwaye uMama wakhe wayesebenesandla sokukhulula indebe yekhofi).
Abantwana bayinkosi yokusebenzisa iingcamango zabo, ngoko bafumane ubuchule kwaye bahlekise. Musa ukulibala, kukho imidlalo yebhodi kunye nabamakishi abathintekayo abanokukunceda uqaphele iinxalenye zomdlalo onjenge-chess okanye u-scrabble. Funda iindlela ezili-12 zokuzonwabisa zokusebenzisa iindlela ezininzi zokufunda kwiMfundo ukuze ufumane iingcinga ezingakumbi ngokusebenzisa zonke iinjongo zokudlala.
Ukuhleka kwiBloopers yakho
Ngaba uye waqaphela amaxesha amaninzi ngosuku abantwana bahleka ngokukhawuleza ? Ngokuqinisekileyo bayazi indlela yokuphila kwimizuzu yangoku kwaye banokufumana uhlangothi oluhle malunga nantoni na - kuquka iibhloko zakho. Musa ukuthatha izimvo zabo ezingenanto.
Ngoko, wenza iphutha kwaye bahleka ngezicathulo zakho ezihlukeneyo? Khanyisa kwaye ubatshele ukuba uzama ukuqala iifashthi entsha. Into ephambili kukuba uhlale udlala kwaye ubonise abazukulu bakho abenza iibhulophu ezincinci ngenxa yokuba nombono ophantsi akukho nto enkulu.
Indlela yokudlala ebomini ayikugcinwa kuphela ekubonweni. Ukuhleka kuza kufihla ixesha elininzi lohlazo, ngoko kutheni ungayisebenzisi kakuhle?
Yibani 'Abalingani bezobuCalulo'
Oko ndiyithethayo oku kukukhuthaza intsebenziswano nabazukulwana bakho: ukusebenzisa amehlo kunye nokwazi kwakho, unokukwazi ukufeza malunga nantoni na!
Abantwana ababonwayo nabazali abaziboneleyo basebenziselwa ukubukelwa, baxelelwe ukuba benzani, kwaye bahlala bephantsi kokuhlola. Ulungele apha.
Ukuba ungaboniyo okanye ungaboni kakuhle, unokuphelisa umsebenzi oqhelekileyo. Buza umzukulu wakho malunga neenkcukacha ezibonakalayo njengoko usebenzisana kwaye baya kuvuya ukuba 'ngumgcini wokulinda' ukuguqulwa okuqabulayo.
Ngokufundisa umzukulu wakho indlela yokusebenzisana ebuntwaneni obudala , uphinde unike ubuchule bokuphila ngokwabelana-into eya kubakhonza kakuhle ekusebenzisaneni kwabo nabanye.
Ukuphuhlisa intenti
Njengabantu abadala, abantwana badinga ixesha lokudlala kunye nexesha lokuphumla. Ndazibona oku kunye nomzukulu wam, owayefuna ixesha lokuhlola kunye kunye nexesha xa wayekhetha ukuzidlala.
Ukutshintshwa kwimijikelezo yakho yemvelo yowomzukulwana kufana nokwenza ingqalelo engqondweni.
Ukwazi ixesha lokubangela umdlalo okanye ukuvumela umzukulu wakho ukuba ahoxise kwigumbi lakhe udibanisa uhlobo oluthile olufunekayo kweso sikhashana ngexesha. Yonke indlu iyazuza ekuphumeni kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, uya kunandipha i-breather ukubeka iinyawo zakho phambi kwexesha elilandelayo leemfuno ezinamandla kunye nomsebenzi oshukumisayo.
Uyisipho esihle kunazo zonke
Inombolo Enye into ongayinika abazukulu bakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ubukhulu bunjani obungase ulahlekelwe ngumdala, unomnqweno wokuba ngumntu osebenzayo ebomini babo.
Ungavumi ukulahlekelwa yimuphi umbono wombono ukuba kukuphelise ekubeni nguyise ogqwesileyo onakho.
Ekugqibeleni, abazukulu bakho baya kukhula ngenxa yezenzo zothando kunye nexesha elichithwa ndawonye ekufundeni ngakumbi malunga nehlabathi elihlukile.
Ngona xa ungeke ube khona emzimbeni wabo, unako ukugcina uxhulumaniso lwakho luqinile ngokuseka indlela yokunxibelelana efanelana nawe. Ngoku ukuba indodakazi yam enkulu ingabhala okufutshane, sinokuqala ukutshintshana ngeetawuni ezimnandi (usebenzisa iteknoloji yam eziyimfama ukuba ndiyibhale kwaye ndiyifunde) kwaye ndakanya iipakethe zamanqaku okanye iibhaluni, endiyazi ukuba uya kuvuyela ukufumana kuye ibhokisi leposi.
Ungasebenzisa ifowuni, i-imeyile, ukuthumela imiyalezo, okanye ipapa ye-goodies engafanelekanga njengeendlela ezilula zokubonisa ukuba uyanyamekela, uthi 'Ndiyakuthanda' kubantu abancinci ebomini bakho.
Zama ukukhumbula la mazwi angamangalisa kaMaya Angelou owathi, "Ndiye ndafunda ukuba abantu bayakulibala into oyithethayo, abantu bayakulibala into oyenzayo, kodwa abantu abayize bazibale ukuba uzive njani."
Nokuba udlala ukudlala imidlalo okanye awukho, bamba iqela legadi okanye ukhabe ibhola kunye nabazukulu bakho, bhaka i-cookie ye cookies kunye okanye uhambe eholide kunye nentsapho yonke, into eyodwa abazukulwana bakho kufuneka bawakhumbule ngawe - kungekhona ukungabikho kokubona kwakho, kodwa ukukwazi kwakho ukunikela ngokukhululekileyo entliziyweni yakho yothando.
Ngoku ngubani othe ootatomkhulu noombono ophantsi awunayo indima ekhethekileyo ekusebenzeni kwintsapho?
Yiba nethemba, ukhuthaze kwaye udale - kwaye wenze umehluko kwimpilo yabathandayo.