Indlela Abanakekeli Abesilisa Abafumana Ngayo inkxaso
Ngokuqhelekileyo sicinga ngabakhathaleli njengabasetyhini, kwaye ngeli xesha lichanekileyo, lichanekile ukuba abaninzi abafazi kunabantwana banikela ngononophelo amalungu omndeni asekudala, amadoda enza isabelo sabo esilungileyo.
Ukususela ngoSuku lukaBawo luwela ngoJuni, oku kubonakala ngathi lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuthetha malunga nokuba bangaphi abaDads banakekela abazali babo, abatshatileyo okanye abanye abathandekayo.
Wathi, Wathi
Esinye isizathu sokuba abantu abanonophelo bangabhabha phantsi kwe-radar kukuba bathambekele ekunakekeleni umntu obathandayo ngokungafani nomfazi.
Nantsingqinisiso embalwa phakathi kwabantwana abanonophelo bentsapho kunye nabanakekeli bentsapho basetyhini, ngokusekelwe kuphando loNxibelelwano lweNtsapho, i-Statistics Canada kunye nencwadi ethi "Amadoda Njengabanakekeli" nguBetty J. Kramer noEdward Thompson, Jr .:
- Ngokubanzi, amadoda abonise ukhetho lokulawula ukunakekelwa kunokuba unakekele ukunakekelwa. Ngokomzekelo, indoda yayiya kuba yindawo yokuqesha umntu ukuba ancede ngemisebenzi enjengokuhlamba okanye ukugqoka umfazi wakhe okanye uyise ofuna uncedo kwimisebenzi yemihla ngemihla. Akunjalo nje ngokungazilungeli ukubonelela ngononophelo njengabasetyhini.
- Abaphandi baye baqaphela ukuba amanye amadoda akancinci ukuthetha ngaluphi na uxinzelelo abanalo olumalunga nemithwalo yabo yokunyamekela, okanye ukwabelana ngemicimbi yokukhathalela namanye amalungu entsapho, abasebenzi kunye nabo okanye abahlobo. Oku, oko kuthetha ukuba abafuni ukuxhasa inkxaso ngendlela efanayo nabafazi abathile abaneendima ezifanayo.
- Ngokuqhelekileyo, amadoda athambekele ekukhangela izixazululo ezisebenzayo kwiinkathazo zokunyamekela kunye nabasetyhini baqhuba imizwa yokuba kutheni ukunakekelwa kuyadingeka. Omnye umzekelo wale nto kukuba amadoda angacinga ukuba iteknoloji ekude njengenxalenye yesicwangciso sokunyamekela kunokuba kukho ezinye izandla.
- Amadoda abizwa bengenakulungelelaniswa kangako ukunyamekela kunabesetyhini ukwenzela ukuba xa kuvela isidingo, abaqinisekanga ukuba bangajika bani na ukuba bacele bani.
- Amadoda athambekele ekulindeni de kubekho ingxaki-njengokwaluhlala esibhedlele-ngaphambi kokukhangela naluphi na uhlobo lolononophelo lwezonyango kulungu labo losapho, kodwa umfazi unako ukukhangela olu hlobo loncedo xa sele ejongene nokukhathazeka komnakekeli.
Kule ntlukwano, kukho ukungabonakali phakathi kwamadoda anakekela abafazi bawo, amadoda anakekela umntwana okhubazekile, namadoda anakekela abazali abadala. Ngokomzekelo, Kwimeko yamadoda enika inkxaso ngenkxaso yabafazi babo, banakho ukubonelela ngononophelo kunabantwana abangabanikiyo.
Musa Ukuya Kuphela
Kungenxa yokuba abantu abanako amathuba okuba babelane ngokuxhalabisa kwabo kunye nabo abasondeleyo kubo akuthethi ukuba abayidingi inkxaso. Uphando lubonisa ukuba amadoda anokufumana uxinzelelo-kakhulu kunabo bafanele ukubeka umfazi wabo ngengqondo yokunyuka kwengqondo-kwaye bazuze kwinduduzo kunye nokuqonda.
Ezinye iingcebiso kubanini-bentsapho abanakekeli-kunye nabasetyhini nabo-ukuqinisekisa ukuba abayikutshisa:
- Joyina iqela lokuxhasa elidibana ne-intanethi okanye ngomntu rhoqo. Kukho iintlobo ezininzi zamaqela enkxaso-ngaphandle kwamanye amadoda, amanye awona achaphazelekayo, amanye asebenzisana necawa yendawo, nangaphezulu. Leli thuba kungekhona nje ukwabelana ngeengxaki zakho, kodwa ukufumana ingqiqo kulabo bahamba ngendlela efanayo.
- Khathalela. Nceda uqhubeke okanye uqale ukutya ukutya okunempilo, usebenzise umzimba rhoqo kwaye uhlale ubuthongo obuhle. Nangona abanakekeli bexesha elide banokuyeka ixesha abanokuba bachithe ngayo ukuze banakekele ukunyamekela. Nangona kunjalo, ukunyamekela inhlalakahle yomntu akusiyo inzimeko kwaye uqhuba umngcipheko wokungakwazi ukunyamekela umthandayo wakho kwisimo esifanayo.
- Cela uncedo. Ingaba ufuna uncedo olongezelelweyo ngononophelo lwamanye amalungu entsapho okanye ukuya kumboneleli wezempilo kwiimfuno zakho zonyango, faka isandla sakho phezulu kunokuba ugcine ukuma. Amadoda ngokukhethekileyo athabatha ukuthatha inxaxheba kwintsapho njengengomnye umsebenzi abamele baphathe ngokuzimeleyo, xa inyaniso kukuba iqela lolononophelo lothando nobunjani lunokuzuza wonke umntu.
- Thatha ikhefu. Kukho imibutho embalwa engekho inzuzo efana ne-Caregifted kunye ne-Well Friendly Association eyenza ukuphucula ukufumana amathuba okunyamekela iintsapho. Kwaye kuthatha iyure ukuya kwedwa umntu ngosuku okanye kanye ngeveki kunokukwenza umehluko ekukwazi ukuvuselela kwakhona.
Ukuba ungumntu osondeza umyeni, yazi ukuba awodwa. Ukuba uyayazi indoda enikezela ngononophelo lwentsapho, khangela ukuba ufumana inkxaso ayifunayo.