Akunabo bonke ubudlelwane obuhle. Ukuxilongwa kwe-STD akusona isizathu sokuphepha ulwalamano nomntu. Nangona kunjalo, indlela umlingane olawula ngayo ukuba ukuxilongwa kunokukunika ingcamango efanelekileyo yesimo sakhe. Inokukunceda ukuba uqonde ukuba ubuhlobo bakho buhle.
Kukho abantu abahlukumezayo baya kusebenzisa izifo ezithathelwana ngesondo (STDs) ukuzama nokulawula okanye ukulimaza amaqabane abo.
Oku kufuthi kwenziwa ngokutyhila ngokuzenzekelayo iqabane kwi-STD ukwenzela ukuba bazive bebanjwe ulwalamano. Kungenziwa kwakhona ngokusebenzisa i-STD ekhoyo yeqabane ukuba ilahlekise ingqiqo yazo.
Ukufezekisa ngokuzithandela abo bathandayo
Abantu abasuleleke nge-STD abangenakunyanga bavakalelwa kukuba bachithekile, bangcolile okanye banentloni . Ngelixa abaninzi abantu banokukwazi ukufumana iimvakalelo ezinjalo ngexesha kunye nokucebisa, abanye abantu abangenabulungisa kunye nabaxhaphazayo baya kubachaphazela ngamabomu iqabane kunye ne-STD yabo. Injongo yabo kukunyusa iimvakalelo ezifanayo kunye nokugcina iqabane labo nabo ngonaphakade.
Ezinye iiNgcaphuno eziqhelekileyo:
- "Ewe, ukuba ndamnika i-herpes, kuya kufuneka ukuba ahlale nam."
- "Ngoku uchithekile, nawe unokuhlala kunye nam kuba akukho mntu uya kuba nawe."
- "Ngoku ukuba unesi sifo, akukho nanye umntu onokukuthanda. Ukuba uyandishiya, uya kuba yedwa ebomini bakho."
Inyani yinto yokuba nabani na ochaphazela ngenyameko nge-STD aze akuxelele ukuba ufanele uhlale naye ngenxa yokuba "uchithekile," "ungcolile," "ungathandeki," okanye nayiphina ingcaciso akuyena mntu ufanele ukuba ndinobudlelwane no. Akunandaba ukuba izenzo zabo zivela kwiimvakalelo zokungakhuseki okanye ukuzithiba.
Ukukhusela ngokuqinisekileyo umntu onesifo se-STD, ngenjongo yokusebenzisa eso sifo ukulawula ubomi babo bomlingane, unenkohlakalo kwaye uhlaselayo. Kuwuphawu olufanelekileyo lokuba ufuna ukufumana indlela ekhuselekileyo yobudlelwane ngokukhawuleza.
Oku kuthetha, kubalulekile ukuvuma ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba abantu baveze amaqabane abo kwi-STD ngokungenasisiseko. Ngokomzekelo, oku kufuthi kwenzeka ukuba umntu unentsholongwane engabonakaliyo ayengaziyo. Kukwafanelekile ukukhankanya ukuba abanye abantu bayabonakalisa ngokucacileyo amaqabane abo kwi-STD ngaphandle kwehlazo, ukungazi, okanye ukunyaniseka kunokunyaniseka. Nangona iimeko ezinjalo zingabonakaliswa ngethemba kunye nokuhluleka koqhagamshelwano, abahlali bexhaphaza.
Ukwenza Ucinga Akukho mntu Uya Kukuthanda Ngenxa yokuba unesifo sokugula
Xa ulwalamano luye lwaqala ukuhamba kakubi, abanye abantu baya kusebenzisa nayiphi na indlela abanako ukugcina iqabane labo ekuphumeni. Enye indlela enokuthi ixelele umthandi wabo ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba bafumane iqabane elitsha kuba baye bafumanisa ukuba bane-STD.
Ezinye iiNgcaphuno eziqhelekileyo:
- "Unethamsanqa ukuba undifumene. Akukho namnye umntu onokukufumana ngendlela."
- "Awuyi kushiya mna. Awuyi kufumana omnye umntu oya kuwamkela."
- "Isizathu esicinga ukuba ndijonge ngaphaya kwesifo sakho kukuba ndiyazi wena iminyaka. Akukho mntu uya kuthatha ixesha lokukhathazeka."
Ningakholelwa kubuxoki. Abantu abaninzi abane-STD abavulekileyo nabanyanisekileyo malunga neengxaki zabo baye bafumana ezinye iintando zesondo nezothando. Ii-STD ziqheleke kakhulu. Kukho abantu ngaphandle apho abangaboni naliphi na i-STD ukuba ibe "i-break breaker".
Kuyinyaniso ukuba abanye abantu onokufuna ukutshatana nabo abayi kukwazi ukujongana nokuxilongwa kwe-STD. Nangona kunjalo, oko akuthethi ukuba akunakwenzeka ukufumana uthando. Abantu baya kukhetha ukuthabatha umngcipheko wokuba babe nomntu onokukhathalela.
Lezo mngcipheko zingabandakanya ithuba lokutyhila kwi-STD. Ngokusoloko kungabonakali njengento enkulu xa ukhetha ukuba nomntu omthandayo.
Ngaphantsi
Kungenxa yokuba unayo i-STD, nangona ongenakuphilisa, akuthethi ukuba ufanele uhlale kunye neqabane lakho langoku. Kukho iindlela zokufumana uncedo kunye nosulelo lwakho kwaye uphume ebudlelwaneni.
Ama-STD akenzi umntu ombi, umntu ongcolileyo okanye umntu ongafanelanga uthando. I-STD ayikho isigwebo esivela kuThixo. Awuyena mqondiso yokuba awufanelanga ukuvuya.
I-STD ayikho isizathu sokuhlala ubuhlobo obubi
Fumana ulwazi malunga ne-National Domestic Violence Hotline apha. Okanye biza u-1-800-799-SAFE (7233) okanye i-TTY 1-800-787-3224.