Injongo yalo naluphi na ulwalamano lwesigulane-ugqirha kufuneka libe yinye intlonelo kunye nentsebenziswano, isebenze kunye ukuze kufezekiswe iziphumo zonyango ezingcono kakhulu. Uninzi lwexesha lenzekile kanye. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ubudlelwane buhamba ngokukhawuleza, kwaye oko kungadinga ukulungiswa kobudlelwane besigulane nodokotela.
Isizathu Sogulane-Ugqirha Ubudlelwane Ukudakalisa
Ngamanye amaxesha iingxaki ziphoso logqirha.
Ukususela kwingqungquthela yokuqala, mhlawumbi wayedla ngokukhawuleza okanye uyazikhukhumeza , okanye ubenomgca wecala. Ukuba kunjalo, akukho nto yokulungiswa. Ubungumntu ugqirha kuphela.
Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha ingxaki ibangelwa ngumguli ngokwakhe . Unokuba nobudlelwane obuhle kunye nogqirha wakhe ixesha elide, kodwa kwenzeka into eyenza ugqirha wakhe aqhubekele ukunyamekela. Kwimeko apho, unokukhetha ukuzama ukulungisa ubudlelwane bakhe nodokotela wakhe.
Hlola imeko
Ukuba le imeko yakho, kuya kufuneka uhlole ukuba ingxaki ibangelwa nguwe okanye ugqirha wakho. Ukuba ubangele, ke amanyathelo angezantsi anokukunceda usebenze ukulungisa ubuhlobo. Ukuba akunjalo, ukuba uziva ukuba ulwalamano olubi luyiposiso lakho, kufuneka uqikelele ukuba kulungele ukulungiswa, okanye ngaphezulu ukuya kwinqanaba, ukulungiswa.
Ukongeza, unokufuna ukuzibuza ukuba ufuna ukuqhubeka ubonwa kwaye unyangwa ngugqirha ongenakukuphatha ngokuhloniphayo.
Ukuba ulwalamano luya kunzima, awukwazi ukufumana uncedo olungcono. IForbes yabika ukuba
"oogqirha abanamava aphezulu adibeneyo kunye nabo bavakalisa iziphumo ezingathandekiyo, ngelixa olunye uphando lubonisa ukuba izigulane ezinobungozi obuthathaka kumgqirha wazo oyintloko babengenakukwazi ukufumana unyameko oluhambelana nezikhokelo ezisisiseko."
Akukhoendaba ezilungileyo.
5 Amanyathelo Wokulungisa Umonde wakho-Udokotela Ulwalamano
Ukuba uzimisele ukuba ulwalamano lwakho nodokotela wakho luye lwaphuka, kwaye ungathanda ukuzama ukuyilungisa, cinga ngamanyathelo alandelayo:
- Bonisa umfanekiso obangela ukuba yingxaki. Unokufumana isizathu kwiloluhlu lwezikhalazo ezinkulu zogqirha malunga nezigulane . Ukuba yinto engenako ukulungiswa, uze uqhubeke. Wena kunye nogqirha wakho akasoze wambona amehlo kwaye awunakufumana unyameko owufunayo kwaye ufanelwe.
- Ukuba kunokwenzeka, lungisa imeko. Ukuba kusekelwe kwimali, unokufuna ukuhlawula ibhilikhi yakho. Ukuba i-based based temperament, unokufuna ukulungisa isimo sakho sengqondo. Ukuba unesigulane esinegunya, ngoko unako ukulungisa. Ukuba kungumcimbi wendlela olwabelana ngayo neziphumo zakho malunga nemeko okanye unyango olunokwenzeka, ungafuna ukuzama indlela eyahlukileyo yokwabelana ngophando lwakho nodokotela wakho. Ukuba ugqirha wakho akayithandi into yokuba unomdla wakho, kufuneka ufumane omnye ugqirha .
- Ukuxolisa. Ukuba uye wakwazi ukulungisa ingxaki, yilexesha lokuba wenze isigqibo sokuxolisa. Chaza oko kwenzekayo, kwaye kutheni uva ukuba ugqirha wakho ngumntu ongcono kakhulu kukunceda imeko yakho yonyango. Mxelele uza kwenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuqinisekisa ukuba ubunzima abuyi kubuya kwakhona. Oku kunokwenzeka okanye akunakukubuyisela kumagqirha akho agqirha. Uphendule ugqirha wakho kukunceda ukuba unqume ukuba ubuhlobo buya kuphucula ngokwaneleyo ukuqinisekisa ukuba uya kufumana unonophelo oluyidingayo.
- Qinisekisa ukuba lixesha lokuhamba. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba awukwazi ukulungisa ingxaki okanye ukugqithisa ubudlelwane kunye nogqirha wakho . Okanye mhlawumbi inkqubo yokulungisa ibonakala ivelise inkonzo yomlomo kuphela ugqirha kwaye awunalo uphawu lokuba ubuhlobo bakho buya kuphinda bube buhle ngendlela othanda ngayo. Kule meko, lixesha lokuhamba. Imizamo yakho iya kuba sebenzise kangcono ukufumana omnye ugqirha. Khumbula, oogqirha ngabaqeqeshi, ewe, kodwa nabo ngabantu. Ngelixa abaninzi banako ukuhamba phambili (lo buhlobo bobugcisa, akuyena umtshato), ngamanye amaxesha oko akunakwenzeka. Beka amandla akho ekumiseni ulwalamano olutsha, oluthe tye kunye nomnye ugqirha.
- Qinisekisa ukuba ufumane iikopi zeengxelo zakho zonyango . Oku kusebenzayo kungakhathaliseki ukuba sisiphumo kwaye kubandakanya naziphi na iirekhodi ezidalwe ngelixa phantsi kwaloo nkathalo, kunye nawaphi na oogqirha akuthethile kuye. Uya kufuneka udibanise ukuba kunokwenziwa kwimiba enokubangela ukuba unobungozi kwiimeko zakho zokunakekelwa kwezempilo kwixesha elizayo kwaye ulungele iirekhodi zakho zonyango ukuba ufumana ulwazi olungayi kuba khona.
Hlala usebenza
Nceda uqaphele ukuba akukho ndawo kulolu luhlu esikucebisa ukuba ube ngumntu ongenalo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni eyenza ulwalamano lwakho lube lukhulu ukuqala, ukuxhotyiswa kuthetha ukuba ungumbutho wezobupolisi, kodwa uchanekileyo kwaye uchanekile. Kufuneka uqhubeke usebenza ngokunyamekela kwakho, kodwa kufuneka wenze njalo ngenhlonipho.
Ungadinga Ukufumana Omnye Ugqirha
Ngokwenene, le ndlela ayikwazi ukusebenza. Ukuba ulwalamano olunokungahambelani, kufuneka ufumane elinye ugqirha. Khumbula, ngumthengisi wemarike. Oogqirha basweleka kwaye izigulana zifuna ngophando ootitshala abanokubanceda.
Indlela efanelekileyo yokukhusela ingxaki ebuhlotsheni kukuba ungayivumeli ukuba ityala ukuze iqale. Izigulane ezikhethileyo zikhetha ukuthetha ngokuhlonipha ukuqala kunye nokuthetha ngokuhlonipha ngokubuyisana .
> Umthombo:
> Ruiz R. Okwenene Ugqirha Wakho Ucinga Ngawe. Forbes. Ishicilelwe ngoMatshi 16, 2009.