Ziziphi iimfuno zokutshintsha
Ingaba ucinga nje ngomvavanyo wakho wonyaka wesiganeko kukukwenza ukuba unqande? AWUKHO wedwa. Ngelixa amaninzi amabhinqa akanakho ukugoduka malunga nokuvakashela i-gynecologist, abanye abafazi bahlala besaba ukhathazeka nokucinga nje ngaloo ndwendwe.
Ngokutsho kukaMarifran Mattson, uprofesa onxibelelwano kunye neYunivesithi yasePurdue ophonononga uxhulumaniso lwezempilo, "Abasetyhini abaninzi banenkxalabo enkulu malunga nokuhlolwa kwentsholongwane yabo yonyaka.
Ukuxhalabisa kuthintela abafazi ukuba bafumane unyameko olungakumbi, kwaye abaninzi abafazi abafuna ukunyamekela rhoqo abanakuvuyela ukutyelela kwabo. "
UMattson ubonisa ukuba imfundo yesigulane ibalulekileyo ekunciphiseni ukuxhalaba, njengoko kuya kunceda abafazi bazive bengasetyenziswanga, kwaye bakhuthaze ukuba "banokuqiniseka ngakumbi ukuba bafune ukuba abantu ngabanye bahlonishwe kwaye igalelo labo lijongwe."
Uphando olwenziwa ngo-2003 nguMattson noMaria Braun, uprofesa onxulumene nezifundo zonxibelelwano kwiYunivesithi yaseWest Virginia, wabonisa ukuba ipesenteji ephakamileyo yabasetyhini abaphakathi kweminyaka eyi-18 no-71 bayesaba malunga nokunyamekela abayitholayo kubazali babo. Baye babonisa ukungonwabi kwindlela ababenokugonywa ngayo ababelethi babo baphatha ngayo uxhalabo lwabo.
Imithombo Yabasetyhini Abesifazana
Phantse i-sibini kwisithathu yabesifazane abahlolisisiweyo babonisa ukuxhalaba malunga nobulili besifo sabo somzimba. Ezinye izizathu zokwesaba kunikwe ngabafazi abahlolisisiweyo ziquka:
- iimvakalelo
- neentloni
- iimvakalelo zomntu siqu
- ukwesaba ukufumana ingxaki efana nomhlaza
Abasetyhini, inxalenye enkulu, abazange bakhulume zabo iimvakalelo kwi-gynecologist yabo, kwiimeko ezininzi kuba babeziva ukuba oogqirha "babengazixhasi." Abasetyhini ababelana ngeemvakalelo zabo bathi ababelethi babo bahlala behleka okanye baxelele ukuba baphumule.
Abafazi bavakalisa ukuba bafuna ukunxibelelana kangcono kunye noogqirha babo, kodwa bahlala bekhululekile ukuxoxa nabo.
Braun uthi: "Oogqirha kufuneka babone abafazi njengabantu abanenkxalabo yangempela, kwaye abagulane kufuneka baqale, okanye baqhubeke, bexela xa bethetha ngokuxhalabisa kwabo." Ucebisa ukuba basebenze ekuboneni amehlo kunye nokuphepha ukuzithoba. Ukwacetyiswa ukuba izigulana zifuna ixesha elingakumbi kunye nogqirha wazo ukuze babelane ngezinto ezixhalabisayo kwaye babuze imibuzo malunga nempilo yabo ebakhathazayo.
Ngaba Isikhathi Sokufumana I-Gynecologist entsha?
Yintoni ongayenza ukuba i-gynecologist yakho ingabelani ngeenkxalabo zakho, okanye ukuba awukwazi ukubonakalisa ukwesaba kwakho kunye nexhala kunye nabo? Okokuqala, sigqibo sokuba ngaba uziva ukhululekile kunye nodokotela wesilisa okanye wesibini. Bese ubuze intsapho kunye nabahlobo ngeengcebiso. Ukudluliselwa komntu ngokuqhelekileyo kukho enye yezona ndlela ezilungileyo zokufumana ugqirha ozimisele ukuba nomzila ovulekileyo wokunxibelelana nawe.
Ukuba ufumana i-gynecologist ngokudluliselwa komntu akunakwenzeka, biza ii-ofisi ezininzi zobomi kwindawo yakho kwaye uthethe nabasebenzi. Buza ukuba unako ukuthetha nomongikazi wegqirha malunga nesiganeko soqhagamshelwano nodokotela kunye nefilosofi yesigulane.
Into ebalulekileyo ukuba uyikhumbule kukuba awubophekile ukuba uqhubeke nokubona umfazi othile wezilwanyana ukuba ungeyonto. Ungesabi ukufuna omnye ugqirha okanye ukucela iimbono zesibini xa ungakhululekile kunye nokuvavanya kwakho kwintsholongwane yempilo yakho. Intuthuzelo yakho yinto ongenakukwazi ukuziphika!
Umthombo:
Buzzanell, Patrice M., uHelen M. Sterk, kunye noLynn H. Turner. Ubulili kwiiNkcukacha zoNxibelelwano eziSebenzisiweyo. "Ukurhoxiswa koNxibelelwano ngexesha loviwo lweGynecological." Amawaka ama-Oaks, CA: i-Sage Publications, ngo-2004.