Khetha amagama malunga nokufa, intlungu, nokulila kwiinkcubeko ezahlukeneyo
Nangona amagama angenakuze acacise ngokucacileyo indlela umntu athetha ngayo kuthi, ulwimi lunokuthi lunikeze induduzo, induduzo, ithemba, kunye nokuphefumlelwa emva kokufa komntu othandekayo. Imizekeliso kunye namazwi omntu malunga nokufa, intlungu, kunye nokulila ezivela kwiintlobo zenkcubeko zenkcubeko ngamanye amaxesha kunokuthetha amagama awunako ukuzithetha.
Kukho iintlobo ezininzi zezithethe zenkcubeko ezungeze ukufa , kunye neemvakalelo ezahlukeneyo kunye neembono malunga noko kuthetha ntoni.
Ukususela ekuhlonipheni umntu owafa ekusekeleni ubomi, ukunyusa i-humor, le mizekeliso yexesha ibonisa ukuhlukana okukhulu.
Amazwi okuphefumlelwa emva kokufa
IMizekeliso kunye namazwi angabanceda ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo emva kokulahlekelwa ngumntu othandekayo. Basenokukuthuthuzela njengoko ulila lodwa. Bangakunceda njengoko ubhala i-eulogy, okanye ubhale ileta ye-condolence kumntu othandekayo. Ziyakunceda ngokukhethekileyo xa uzama ukufumana amagama alungileyo, kwaye udinga ukuphefumlelwa okuncinci.
Amazwi Ahlonipha Umntu Ofile
Wonke umntu uyafa, kodwa kunokuba buhlungu kakhulu xa umntu omthandayo owayemhle kakhulu efa.
- Ungathethi ngosizi engabikho, kodwa uhlala ngokubulela ukuba wayekho.
- Amadoda alungileyo kufuneka afe, kodwa ukufa akunakukubulala amagama abo.
IMizekeliso Esikhumbuzayo Ukuba Abathandekayo Bethu Baphila Ngokusisebenzisa
Nangona umhlobo wakho ehambile, imemori yabo ihleli. Kwaye kunye nokuba imemori ihlala inxalenye yakho, ihlala iphila.
- Ngethuba nje siphila, nabo baya kuphila, ngokuba ngoku bayinxalenye yethu, njengoko sikhumbula.
- Uthando luphela lusinika intsingiselo yobomi obungunaphakade.
- Abafileyo kuphela abaye balibalekile.
IMizekeliso Ebonisa Intlungu Kulabo Abahlalayo
Usizi lubuhlungu, kwaye maxa wambi uvakalelwa kukuba intliziyo yakho iyaphuka.
Ukujonga iinyembezi njengokuhlanjululwa, kunye nokufumana imfesane kwabanye, kunokuphilisa ngeli xesha.
- Yisiphi isephaphu kumzimba, iinyembezi zomphefumlo.
- UThixo usekufutshane nalabo abanentliziyo ephukileyo.
- Uvelwano luyeza elincinci lokunciphisa intliziyo kwintliziyo yomnye.
IMizekeliso Ebheka Ukufa njengengxenye eqhelekileyo yobomi
Ezinye iinkcubeko zijonga ukufa njengenxalenye eqhelekileyo yobomi ngokuqhubekayo. Kweminye imimandla, phantse ukuba ukhohliwe ukuba wonk 'umntu kufuneka afe ngelinye ilanga.
- Ubomi abuhluke ekufeni. Kubukeka nje ngale ndlela.
- Yonke into ijikeleze isonka kunye nokufa.
- Omnye uqinisekile nje ngokufa.
- Akukho namnye ongakwazi ukuqaqa phezulu ukuze asinde ekufeni.
- Ngubani omdala kwaye akakholelwa, uya kuhamba ethuneni lakhe ngaphandle kokukubona.
- Bonke abafayo bayalingana.
- Ukufa akungqongqo emnyango.
IMizekeliso Eyinceda Ukuyeka
Kubalulekile ukuhlonipha abo bahamba phambi kwethu, kwaye kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukuyeka. Nangona umntu ondibathandayo angathanda ukuba siqhubele phambili kwaye sizonwabele ubomi bethu, kuyinyathelo elinzima ukuthatha. Kungaba luncedo ukukhumbula ukuba uya kuhlala uhlunguzela ukulahlekelwa ngumntu wakho othandekayo, kodwa loo ntlungu iya kuba nzima kakhulu ngexesha. Enyanisweni, emva kwexesha, ukukhumbula umhlobo wakho kunokuvelisa intuthuzelo ngakumbi kunentlungu.
- Zonke izinto zikhula kunye nexesha ngaphandle kosizi.
- Ngubani ofa, ofa, kwaye ohlala, uphila.
- Phila ubomi bakho, kuba uya kufa ukufa kwakho.
IMizekeliso Esikhumbuzayo Ukuba Siphila Bethu Bomi Namhla
Ukufa kuyisikhumbuzo kubo sonke ukuba ubomi bethu buphelile. Ngamanye amaxesha ukubona ukufa kuyisikhumbuzo sokuphila namhlanje.
- Ukuba uqala ukucinga ngokufa, awusayikuqiniseka ngokuphila.
- Wonke umntu uya kufumana isigwebo sesangcwaba.
- Akukho mntu osisityebi engcwabeni.
- Ngethuba nje umntu ephila, ihlabathi lonke lincinci kuye. Emva kokufa, ingcwaba likhulu ngokwaneleyo.
- Phila ukuba abantu bakhulume kakuhle ngawe xa bexakekile. Ulungelo alufunanga isikhumbuzo, ngokuba izenzo zakhe ziyikhumbuzo.
- Ukufa akubheki nje kwincwadi yendala.
IMizekeliso Ngokufa kunye ne-Touch of Humor
Kukho ixesha lezinto zonke. Uthotho aluqhelekanga "ukuya" emva kokufa kodwa lunokuba luncedo kakhulu kwindawo efanelekileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuhleka kweentlungu kungaba ntsikelelo ngexesha lusizi olukhulu. Ngamanye amaxesha, kunokunceda abo bajamelana nobudlelwane obuphambili bokufa.
- Ukuguga akukuhloniphekanga njengokufa, kodwa abaninzi abantu bayayifuna.
- Lowo oza ngenxa yelifa udla ukuhlawula umngcwabo.
- Ukuba isityebi sinokuqesha umntu ukuba afe ngenxa yabo, ihlwempu iya kwenza ubomi obuhle.
- Ukuhlawula nokufa ... ngokukhawuleza kunokwenzeka.
- Inzuzo yentlupheko: izalamane zakho azifumani nto ngokufa kwakho.
- Qinisekisa ukuba uthumele indoda evila kwiNgelosi yokufa.
- Oko unikela ngenxa yesondlo kwimpilo igolide; into owanika ngayo ekugula isilivere; oko uzinikela emva kokufa kukukhokelela.
Ezahlukeneyo Imiphefumlo yokufa
Kukho ezininzi iingcamango zokufa ezingafanelekanga kwinkonzo yesikhumbuzo kodwa zicinga ngokufa ngezinye iindlela.
- Ngethuba nje umntu ephila, ihlabathi lonke lilingancinci kuye. Emva kokufa, ingcwaba likhulu ngokwaneleyo.
- Yonke into ijikeleze isonka kunye nokufa.
- Ukufa komntu osekhulile kufana nethala leencwadi.
- Ubomi obubi kunabo bonke bungcono kunobomi bokufa.
- Ihlabathi lonke liphupha, kwaye ukufa ngumtoliki.
- Kukhona unyango lwezinto zonke ngaphandle kokufa.
Amagama okujongana nokufa
Amazwi kwimizekeliso, imbongo, kunye neprose anokukwazi ukuchaza iimvakalelo ongenakukwazi ukuzithetha kuphela. Iingongoma malunga nokufa kunye nokulahleka zingadibanisa omnye umlinganiselo, kwaye uchaze iimvakalelo ngokubanzi ngamanye amaxesha. Ukufa kunye neengcaphuno zentlungu kunokubamba into ozama ukuyiveza, nokuba ingasetyenziswanga njengoko uhamba nosizi lwakho, okanye njengoko ubhala i-eulogy.
ILizwi Elivela Ekufeni IMizekeliso
Ukuba ufikile apha ukukhangela iingcamango malunga nokufa, mhlawumbi unesihlwili. Ingaba umntu olahlekileyo wayesondele kakhulu, okanye ukuba ubuhlobo bakho bubuhlungu okanye buphela ngaphambi kokufa, intliziyo yakho iya kuba yintengiso. Kukhona ingqondo yokulahleka kungakhathaliseki uhlobo lolwalamano onalo, kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba wawukufutshane kangakanani.
Ukulahlekelwa abo basondelene nathi buhlungu. Kodwa ukulahlekelwa yizona zikude zibuhlungu kakhulu. Kungekuphela kwamaxesha kunye kodwa kwiimvakalelo ezingenakukukhuphaza entliziyweni yakho malunga nokulahlekelwa kwangaphambili. Ukulahlekelwa ngumntu osondele kakhulu entliziyweni yakho kufana nokulahlekelwa yinxalenye yakho. Nangona ulahlekelwa ngumntu ongekho kufuphi, umntu oye wahlukana naye, mhlawumbi, uyabuhlungu kakhulu. Ekufeni, umnyango uvaliwe ngethemba lezinto ezahlukileyo kwixesha elizayo.
Ukuba ususizi, zinike ixesha. Wonke umntu uyaxhalabheka ngokuhlukileyo kwaye ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo. Akukho ndlela efanelekileyo okanye engalunganga yokulila, kuphela indlela efanelekileyo kuwe.
> Imithombo:
> Nalayeh, H. Ukuthetha ngeNkcubeko, kwiMimoya kunye neNkcazo yeNkonzo yoNonophelo lwePalliative. Ama-Annal of Medicine Palliative . 2018. 7 (iSiza 1): AB016.